My unexpected journey . . . - Page 4 - Jamaica Talk

Alex4Ja · #46 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Smile Jamaica

Are you saying that men you meet at nightclubs are doomed to a sad and lonely life? Just like there are players our there, Alex, good, kind, honest men do sometimes go to nightclubs.

No Hon,
I made no implication of night-clubbers leading sad and lonely lives. On teh ciontrary, they obviously lead more wild and exciting lives that the alter.

My point was, you dont go seeking the obvious in the most unlikely places.

Why would a man expect to meet a stripper, marry her, take her home, then expect her to then stay at home and mind the house and home?
If she so chooses to do so, then thats fine. But its all about teh other person's expectations.

Samba · #47 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 02:10 PM

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She met her husband through a mis-addressed email, within 6 months married the man and moved to the US - they have been married 9 years now, are the parents of beautiful twins, and the happiest couple that I know

Daaaaaammmnn

Lillywight · #48 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 02:18 PM

RD . . . just read your post and I have to admit that I'm sitting here at my desk bawling my eyes out. I will PM you . . . privately, but, openly, I wanted to "thank you" for joining ETJ and posting in my thread.

Yesterday was a "bad" day . . . for those of you who don't know . . . I received a phone call from Corey's Boss from Couples San Souci. I met the man once for all of 12 seconds and couldn't understand why he would be contacting me. When I asked him why he was calling, I didn't get a straight answer. I've been unable to figure out if Corey gave him my phone # and said he was "done" with me . . . or if Corey was standing there when he called me and was, in some way, trying to figure out if I was okay. The man kept asking me if I were "okay" . . . and claimed to know NOTHING about Corey's personal situation, which I found very unlikely.

Regardless, I had worked so hard to put all the nonsense behind me and begin to heal, but that strange phone call brought all the hurt and pain rushing back to me. I just want all of this to "go away" and my normal life to return, but I can't stop thinking about this -- analyzing it.

Smile Jamaica, you always say such graceful things about how I've handled this situation. I thank you for that. I certainly don't feel too "graceful" that's for sure . . .

Jamaica Miss · #49 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 02:37 PM

RD: Your posts have certainly touched a lot of us on here. I too was very sad to hear of the loss of your son. And thank you for posting so that Lily can garner something to help her through her time.

Smile Jamaica · #50 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Lillywight

RD . . . just read your post and I have to admit that I'm sitting here at my desk bawling my eyes out. I will PM you . . . privately, but, openly, I wanted to "thank you" for joining ETJ and posting in my thread.

Yesterday was a "bad" day . . . for those of you who don't know . . . I received a phone call from Corey's Boss from Couples San Souci. I met the man once for all of 12 seconds and couldn't understand why he would be contacting me. When I asked him why he was calling, I didn't get a straight answer. I've been unable to figure out if Corey gave him my phone # and said he was "done" with me . . . or if Corey was standing there when he called me and was, in some way, trying to figure out if I was okay. The man kept asking me if I were "okay" . . . and claimed to know NOTHING about Corey's personal situation, which I found very unlikely.

Regardless, I had worked so hard to put all the nonsense behind me and begin to heal, but that strange phone call brought all the hurt and pain rushing back to me. I just want all of this to "go away" and my normal life to return, but I can't stop thinking about this -- analyzing it.

Smile Jamaica, you always say such graceful things about how I've handled this situation. I thank you for that. I certainly don't feel too "graceful" that's for sure . . .

You never did figure it out, huh? I've been wondering.

Smile Jamaica · #51 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Alex4Ja

No Hon,
I made no implication of night-clubbers leading sad and lonely lives. On teh ciontrary, they obviously lead more wild and exciting lives that the alter.

My point was, you dont go seeking the obvious in the most unlikely places.

Why would a man expect to meet a stripper, marry her, take her home, then expect her to then stay at home and mind the house and home?
If she so chooses to do so, then thats fine. But its all about teh other person's expectations.

Well, now, that is kind of a nasty thing to say. Perhaps said stripper is doing that job because she is a single parent trying to improve her life by taking college courses during the day. She's desperate for money and this was the plan she came up with. Are you saying that once she finished her schooling and went on to some fantastic career (outside of the adult entertainment industry), that she would not make a suitable wife for someone? Sometimes, Alex, desperate situations call for drastic measures. It would not be for me, nor would I ever suggest this is the way to go for anyone. I just don't think you can say such things on the whole without thinking of the motivations behind the choices.

GhettoGurl · #52 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 03:01 PM

RD... I have no words, losing your child.... I am so sorry

Alex4Ja · #53 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Smile Jamaica

Well, now, that is kind of a nasty thing to say. Perhaps said stripper is doing that job because she is a single parent trying to improve her life by taking college courses during the day. She's desperate for money and this was the plan she came up with. Are you saying that once she finished her schooling and went on to some fantastic career (outside of the adult entertainment industry), that she would not make a suitable wife for someone? Sometimes, Alex, desperate situations call for drastic measures. It would not be for me, nor would I ever suggest this is the way to go for anyone. I just don't think you can say such things on the whole without thinking of the motivations behind the choices.

Well since you mentioned it...Unless you live in a one-horse town with absolutely no other job-prespects iI find it very unacceptable to chose such a job SIMPLY becuase of hard times.

In 100% honesty,I was passionately involved with an extremely beautiful woman who (according to her) was forced to do same while she was in college, simply because her father refused to help her. She even admitted to a short stint in teh "escort service" even though she denies ever getting physically/sexually involved.

I found out after we got (eternally involved) [Please dont ask, what I mean by that] and found out long afterwards. After a short while,I ended the relationship.

I felt that I could not continue going out with her. I finally found out why on many past occassons when we visited night clubs, movies, and even social events, she is always gets smiles and waves from men who (according to her) she knew, backin the good ole college days".

I couldnt deal with it so I walked away. Thats the truth.

MY APOLOGIES FOR GOING OFF TOPIC, BTW.

JamCan · #54 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 03:14 PM

So Alex, simply put....you're saying you could never be with an ex-prostitute?

Alex4Ja · #55 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by JamCan

So Alex, simply put....you're saying you could never be with an ex-prostitute?

No No! Thats not what I am saying.

Today, as a christian I could be with the person who held the nails while the soldier drove them into Jesus' feet...if that was a woman of course.

Back then,I couldn't deal with it. My imagination nor my ego wouldn't allow me to.

But I must admit that even now< i would require that such a woman and I move to another part of the country or world so that she doesnt have to be constantly bumping into her many past "clients".