Funny I thought about the "outside" world yesterday too, when I saw pictures of me dancing in the Carifest parade on another Jamaican site. The person even said I'm a frequent poster on ETJ.....so this person lives here, knows who I am, and I haven't a clue who they are. Creepy.

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Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.

That is weird...

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I don't know much... but I know I luv you...
& that may be all I need to know!

Yea KINDA!!!!

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Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.

It's wierd to think about; but sometimes the information we give in invaluable, even if it is incredibly painful for us.

You are all brave, strong, and beautiful....I learn from you every day.

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If you've never stared off in the distance, then your life is a shame...

I'm just reading this post. LW did you ever speak with the girl again? I wonder if she made the right choice to kick him to the curb.

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That's an awful story. You poor woman. My God, talking about learning a lesson the hard way. But, not all is a loss. You have helped many of us to be very careful and on-guard with situations like these. You may have saved many from the pain you experienced. Emotions are the problem!!! What woman doesn't want to loved and adored?

You will find a good man when the time is right, because you are a kind, caring woman. I wish you the best.

H20 Bug

I don't think you are going to like Lilly's answer to this. Some people really never do learn.

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If you've never stared off in the distance, then your life is a shame...

Oh dear!

Update please Lilly!

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Here's the update . . .

For all intent and purpose, she's disappeared. All of her phone numbers have been disconnected -- and Corey has not spoken with her since February. I am aware that she still lives in the area as a search in Google brought up a very unfortunate family situation which was in the news recently.

Corey received a call on his phone in JA from a friend of hers -- looking for her (a couple of months ago), and he also received a call from her work #, but when he answered, the phone went dead. He called back . . . and was told she was not there.

I have no further information about her or the status of her relationship with Corey -- or whether she went ahead and filed for the spousal visa for him.

I know what I know because I still have communication with Corey. And yes -- I've attempted to email her and let her know that I have communication with him, but my email to another site has gone unanswered.

I do hope that she's been able to move forward with her life; although, I suspect, like me . . . she continues to struggle over what's occurred.

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Things between us are challenging, 1stP. I've been able to ask some questions, get some answers -- but move on? No . . . not yet. Not sure if I ever will . . . Some days, the love in my heart fills me up. Other days, it's the anger that fills me up. For me, the obstacles he placed in our way are difficult to overcome. They're not impossible to overcome, but I have a hard time "standing still" in what's left of the relationship. I want to "move forward", but I can't. He's married to her, can't afford to hire an attorney to get divorced, she's disappeared, and then there are the immigration/visa issue. I used to think I was strong by walking away from the situation. Now, it's strength that keeps us communicating.

I have no idea what, if anything, will become of he and I. I am holding a plane ticket (have been since last October) -- and he's asked me repeatedly to visit, but, right now . . . I just can't. Maybe I'll be able to see him next month . . . maybe not until next year. Maybe never. All I know is that right now, I can't . . . or won't . . . or, don't want to. It's all so confusing. I guess I'm still sorting it all out.

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Lilly, you are so strong. I'm not sure I could ever be as kind as you are. Or level-headed for that matter. I could never forgive enough. You are a beautiful person....proud to call you my friend.

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If you've never stared off in the distance, then your life is a shame...

LOL. Thanks for that, JG. Believe me, SCG knows that I'm neither level-headed nor strong. She talks me in off the ledge a lot. So do YOU! You probably know as much as anybody about what's happened -- and you've been loving, kind, and supportive to me. I often don't know what I'd have done without some of my ETJ friends.

Most of you do not realize . . . that I also endured another "unexpected journey" after this one. Luckily, my heart was not involved any longer with the person, so it had less of an impact -- yet and still, it was another small mountain to climb. For those of you who don't know . . . I received a PM on this site from Shandy's wife. She was googling Tropical Dreamer and came across this site and my thread . . . she was totally astonished at the relationship I had with her husband. She had married him over 5 years ago -- he was in JA due to issues with his paperwork when he and I reunited and rekindled our relationship from 2000. I know she still comes to this site occasionally and lofts. I hope she reads my post and knows how much respect I have for her. She's an incredible woman. I'm glad Shandy found somebody as wonderful as her. He's lucky. I hope he smartens up and treats her right for the rest of their life together.

I read and re-read this thread frequently (as do a lot of the internet world given the view count of 6000+) because it reminds me of the "good" this thread has done for others. I've received countless PM's of love and support from people I don't even know. Most recently, Tinks sent me a very heartfelt message. Just so you know, those messages mean a lot to me, and no matter how difficult it's all been, I'm thankful that I wrote the thread so that others have a better awareness of what can happen.

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