I'm at the point where all I can do is shake my head. I don't even know what to say anymore. When exactly is enough going to be enough for this woman?...........And, Lilly......If she applies for a K-3 visa, she will still have to adjust status once he is here. If she files for a CR-1, he will get his green card immediately. Whichever way she goes, she is looking at most likely a year wait and another $1,000. And, for what end??????? She can visit him in JA and he can treat her like crap just as easy as letting him do it daily! I wonder if she realizes that if they work out that GF situation like you stated, she'll be expected to send money to JA regularly too?

AMEN sistah!!!!

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I think this is the best route for Lilly at this point. It's natural for her to want to help this woman, cause, like you said, she has a big heart. It's also helped her sort her feelings and see the real Corey. As I talk to Lilly, I realize she is growing stronger day by day. I think if it all had just ended, she would still be struggling to rectify a lot of it.

I trust that she will do what she needs to do for herself... I just don't want her being hurt anymore or drawing out what is an emotional drain.

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I can't just "walk away". Where would I be if all of you walked away from me when I was struggling. If my biggest sin is that my heart is "too big", I'll bear that burden. Honestly, I'm okay. The knowledge that I have now is sufficient for me to heal -- but I feel secure that I can also help Nicky. If nothing else, I can be her friend.

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I know you have a big heart!!! But I'm not sure I would put myself and nicky in the same category--- but I understand the sentiment!

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I just caught up on the latest in this sage - Until Nikki is ready to see the light of day for herself, and only then, will she be able to move on from it - no matter what anyone else says to her - it takes a wakeup call within side of yourself to see the light of day - no one else can put it there for you.

I commend you Lilly for being there for her - and, from my own situation, it can help you to heal. Believe it or not, I am still in touch with two of the women from my ex's past - (one that he cheated on me with, and one that he cheated on her with me, apparently) By emailing and talking with each other, I think it helped us to come to grips with what had gone on - because we definitely were not getting the truth from him. They are both lovely intelligent women that if I had met under different circumstances, they would have probably been good friends of mine - Why should we let a fool stand in the way of that?

Some men will never learn - and as long as they can find a woman that will let them run the game, they will continue to do so - but God don't like ugly, and it will come back to bite them in the ass one day.

Lilly,

I came to this thread being a true friend to Nikki! As I said in the VJ thread, people have their own lives to live and their own decisions to make! I don't think you blasting Nikki's business pon dis thread is helpful to anyone other than you!

I am asking you to please refrain from discussing any thing further about Nikki. If you waan fi discuss wat han wat Corey do to you that's fine...but fi come pon hear han blast all of Nikki's business...I find unecessary and unkind!

Like yuh friend dem tell yuh...yuh need fi leave, Nikki & Corey ALONE!!!
I am sorry for your pain, but I think it's time for YOU to move on!

Bless-ed,
Gill

P.S.- I don't know what you consider a friend. However, I hardly call a ooman tonguing down mi husband at deh airport a friend...den pon toppa dat, yuh waan come tell mi bout hit!!!??? C'mon Lilly, is dat deh behaviour of a REAL friend????

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This is MY business because it involves ME . . . and, unfortunately, it has also involved Nicky because the "link" is Corey!!!!

Tonguing him down?? Obviously, you weren't at the airport. It wasn't like that. And besides, even if I were tonguing him down . . . don't you think that says something more about Corey -- since he was the one who was "married"???? Of course, what he expressed to me was that the relationship was OVER -- that he was going home, and they were getting divorced.

I let this all go, Gill . . . when I learned he was STILL playing her . . . and she was allowing it. I don't make 7 or 8 phone calls a day to him; in fact, I don't even make 1!!!! But, hey -- thanks for dredging up the thread and making it "live" again on ETJ! At least new folks on the Board will get a visual of him so when they're in Ocho next, they'll know who he is and to stay far away from him (or if they're looking for a "good time" with somebody with no scruples they can find him!).

I do care about Nicky though. Just hope she smartens up before she needs HIM to Western Union her $50.00.

By the way, welcome to ETJ!!!

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Enough is enough, people.

Please let this die a natural death.


It will be '08 in a couple of days.
Happy New year!!!
When it comes.

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& that may be all I need to know!

All,

I can fully understand the instinctive reaction to very quickly rally up support if and when we feel that "one of our own" appears to be under fire ESPECIALLY from a newbie whose immediate and initial intents are obvious.

But before this becomes a maelstrom of intermittent verbal firefights please remember...Everyone, new and old, has a right to express their own opinion; those FOR and AGAINST.

But as we all know, for LW, this has been not only an unexpected journey but a devastatingly heartbreaking one as well.

Let's best show our support by honoring her wishes and let the thread fade into oblivion.

After all, she did request once that it be closed.

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I don't know much... but I know I luv you...
& that may be all I need to know!

Well, I am SURE you will agree with me.




aaaahmmm, Dont you?

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BTW>>>Whats with this word "Pre-empt" all of a sudden???

I wonder where you first heard it????
Hmmm.

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