I've over-extended myself on my self-imposed 3-day limitation to wallow, LOL. But, today's a new day. He called last night. I didn't answer -- and I didn't call him back.

I'm beginning to operate from a position of power.

Thank you, MissB, for the late-night counseling session . . . and to everybody on the Board who's posted in my thread or PM'd me. I'm gonna get back on my feet. There's too much "life" to miss by sitting on the sidelines watching it go by.

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That's exactly the thought you need to keep in mind - and you are entitled to wallow in self pity for as long as you like We all do it from time to time - sometimes you wallow for 5 minutes, sometimes a day - but you are entitled, lol - The healing process from something like this is a long one - and only you will know when you have grieved enough.

Hey, how close are you to Lakeland? Friends of mine moved there, they have a reggae band that plays around the club - The singer is always good for a night to take your mind off things (visually, that is - he's a married man, lol)

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I'm about an hour from Lakeland. Where do they play? What's the band's name??? Do they ever play at Marley's???

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Don't think they have played at Marleys - they are called the Burn Dem Band, here's their Myspace page:

http://www.myspace.com/smokereggae

The lead singer and his wife are friends that I lost touch with and just found recently on Myspace.

Oh Marley's......... I miss Marley's.

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We need to do some research on reggae places in your area!!!

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we don't have any good places..

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Here's the "last chapter" in my unexpected journey.

I received a call from Corey's wife this weekend. We spent 2 hours talking and sharing information. She's a wonderful women who is very much in love with Corey -- and has done and continues to do everything within her power to sustain the so-called relationship.

After 2 1/2 weeks of "living" in the US, Corey returned home to JA. Since being home, he's professing his "love" to her and is begging her to file for a Spousal Visa -- so that he can come back. I do not know how all this works, but she indicated that she would have to go through the process a second time, but once completed, he would have his green card and be able to travel back and forth freely.

She's found out about a "girlfriend" that's lived in his house for the past 5 years . . . has even talked to the girlfriend who readily admits that she has "no problem" with her being Corey's wife and him "visiting" her a few weeks per year. And -- why would she have any problem with him visiting? She has sent Corey over $5K in cash since February and has found out that her money has remodeled Corey's house. He now has running water, a kitchen, new tile on the floor.

When Corey was here . . . she gave him money to shop for himself (he returned to JA with a new wardrobe of clothes and Timberland boots). She provided him with insurance and a vehicle. She admits that he basically ignored her when she was in JA . . . as well as when he was here . . . but now, he professes his love several times per day -- from his megaphone (the phone she bought and pays the bill for).

It's the end of the saga (for me) . . . and for her, I pray she finds the strength to love herself enough to get out of the situation. In the meantime, I will be there for her . . .

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So even with her knowing all that she is still struggling with the decision? I cant even explain my feelings about all this, in short it makes me sick.

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Good for you LW.
The ocean of men is very big...Please dont stop eating fish, just cast your net in another direction.

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She is definitely still struggling. She says she's very much in love with him and although she knows everything, everytime he calls, he gives her just a little bit of hope that things will work out . . . so she hangs on.

She'll be done with this when, and only when, she's ready to be . . . this will not continue forever. I suspect the money will dry up and when that occurs, he'll kick her to the curb. She SO doesn't deserve that.

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I kinda feel the same way. But you know what, that poor girl obviously can't see the light of day yet.. when she does, hopefully sooner rather than later, she will do what's best for her.

Until then, I am so grateful that you have the closure and the strength you need to move ahead.

I just want you to be careful about "being there" for her that you don't let this drag you down. You have a huge heart Lilly, just protect yourself that you don't let all her bad decisions continue to impact your life.

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DWL! Don't stop eating fish! hehehehehe

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