My Trip to MoBay (kind of long) - Page 3 - Jamaica Talk

damswell · #31 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 11:06 AM

Play it cool.

Jomo's girl · #32 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by msincognito

I found it best to give him space when he is in one of his "moods".......

I do have a little confession, I spoke to one of his coworkers while he was here...and HE told me that he does not think that "my friend" was looking for a relationship.

But now that I think about it I don't know if I should take his coworkers word for it because in the same breath his coworker was asking me to set him up with someone who could pass for my twin.

Anyway...back to " my friend" ....after I gave him space he noticed that I was being distant and not calling as much....now he is calling me more and asking me why I have not called him.

I know he just left but I do miss him alot....we spoke last night and he wants to know when am I coming to see him again.....

So I am here trying to figure out what to do next....any suggestions?

First of all, that looking for your twin thing........DO NOT fall for that crappola. I have heard that a hundred times at least. They much teach them that line in JA MAN school. Jeez!!!!!

Not knowing your man, I don't want to bash him. He may be perfectly wonderful and all that. I am just going to say, speaking from experience, my "stalker" was exactly like this and it ended badly. I really think it is all about control. They like to have you keep coming back. If you hold back even a little they actively pursue you until you are hooked again and before you know it, you are the one begging to see them. Play with him. I wouldn't get serious. I think that boy is a playa!!!

msincognito · #33 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 12:01 PM

Thanks for the advice....I really don't need someone who is going to play with my emotions. I will just enjoy our time together, when we are together, and leave it at that.

missty1029 · #34 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 12:02 PM

Why do you think hes a playa JG?

Lillywight · #35 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 12:44 PM

I've got the same thing going on. The minute I play it cool, he comes back asking me why I don't call . . . when I'm coming back . . . telling me he loves me and he can't "live like this." For me, it's a game now. So I'M PLAYING.

msincognito · #36 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 12:48 PM

What is your opinion missty1029?

...I read your story today and could not help to notice a few similarities...especially the I am a big girl comment...I said the exact same thing to my friend and that is what started our clash while he was here.

msincognito · #37 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Lillywight

I've got the same thing going on. The minute I play it cool, he comes back asking me why I don't call . . . when I'm coming back . . . telling me he loves me and he can't "live like this." For me, it's a game now. So I'M PLAYING.

Yeah I am not new to the game...and I can handle it so far.

missty1029 · #38 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 01:11 PM

I sent you a message but just take it slow.

Jomo's girl · #39 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by missty1029

Why do you think hes a playa JG?

It's the whole moodiness till you back off then he pushes your buttons to make you feel like you need to talk to him. Then, the whole cycle goes over and over again. I've seen playas like him.

Jomo's girl · #40 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 01:42 PM

You two aren't seeing the same guy are you?

damswell · #41 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 01:51 PM

Lmao!~!!!!

msincognito · #42 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Jomo's girl

You two aren't seeing the same guy are you?

Too funny...I don't think so???

damswell · #43 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 02:05 PM

Hey I know first hand the world is smaller than people think!!!!

Especially with Jamaica. People, know people, who know people etc.....

Jomo's girl · #44 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by damswell

Hey I know first hand the world is smaller than people think!!!!

Especially with Jamaica. People, know people, who know people etc.....

That ain't no lie, Swell.

Lillywight · #45 (**permalink**) 10-02-2006, 05:00 PM

LOL. Kinda sounds similar. Mine has family in NYC too . . . and he's as moody as they come!!! However, mine does not work in MoBay at a resort, so I think we're good. Even if we weren't, I'd step aside. I'm tired . . . tired of the games. Just want something "real".