Have you ever been the victim of a crime? A Burglary, a mugging, carjacking.....one where you were afraid for you life?
How did you feel during, after? How long lasting of an effect did it have on you? Do you get over it?
What changes did you make because of it?
What about Law enforcement? Were they helpful? Did you feel you got any sense of satisfaction or justice from it?
no, never! my sister however has...and it was someone she knew very well....i would say she appears to be OK..but she has always been the type of person to internalize things...so, im not so sure
At Dawson College in Montreal 3 years aago September 13th.
There was a shooting and the guy shot 13 people. 1 died.
The whole school was evacuated. I was on the floor above and ran outside.
Someone claimed there was a second shooter outside and 5000 ppl fled the streets.
Well We were all victoms.
Any of us could of been shot, and it was a threat.
I dont know.
First year of college 2nd floor heading down to the cafeteria to get food Hearing gunshots and seeing ppl bleed from and lying on the ground. Having to run back up and tell everyone there was a shooter in the school.
Yes in a way I was a victom.
Have you ever been the victim of a crime? A Burglary, a mugging, carjacking.....one where you were afraid for you life?
How did you feel during, after? How long lasting of an effect did it have on you? Do you get over it?
What changes did you make because of it?
What about Law enforcement? Were they helpful? Did you feel you got any sense of satisfaction or justice from it?
but as far as law enforcement...no! they are the worst! she was given some real bad information from ppl in the commmisioners office that told her she could not file certain charges against her assailant cuz he was her astranged husband!...even though they had been separated and living in differnt residences.
her expericne showed me that they dont really care...they took their time even tryna find him once the warrant had been served...cuz they said. "we gotta pick of ppl who are murderer first!.."LOLOL--
Well We were all victoms.
Any of us could of been shot, and it was a threat.
I dont know.
First year of college 2nd floor heading down to the cafeteria to get food Hearing gunshots and seeing ppl bleed from and lying on the ground. Having to run back up and tell everyone there was a shooter in the school.
Yes in a way I was a victom.
growing up in urban or inner city...EVERYONE would be a victim if we judged by those standards...IMO a miss is as good as a mile.!
But i personally would not consider you a victim in this case
Have you ever been the victim of a crime? A Burglary, a mugging, carjacking.....one where you were afraid for you life?
How did you feel during, after? How long lasting of an effect did it have on you? Do you get over it?
What changes did you make because of it?
What about Law enforcement? Were they helpful? Did you feel you got any sense of satisfaction or justice from it?
being part of a shooting weather you were shot or not does make you a victim...your afraid for your life and traumatized.
So people involved in say the Columbine shooting that were not shot you would then say they are not victims, even though they were severely effected and traumatized?
Well for me there is a slight difference to being a direct and indirect victim of a crime...I spend lots of time in BX, NY and I have been nearby shootings...its scary as hell and you do get scared, but I now know that when you are the direct victim whose life is threatened its a very different level of violation. Because of the nature f what happened and its still ongoing I will not disclose details. I was attacked this weekend in my own home by someone I once new....the grace of God my son was not here. I cannot begin to tell you how it has effected me. I have literally not slept one wink since it took place. I feel like my adreniline is on overdrive. I feel scared all the time, like no one can really help me. I don't know how long this will last, I am so angry and humiliated by the whole thing. I blame myself a bit cause i idnt check to see if the door was locked after my son left, my emotions are totally out of control...anger sadness anxiety, fear.....paranoia.....and I feel like the police are useless.
I wonder how long it will take for the trauma to settle and for me to sleep again....this is not the first time that i have had an intruder in my home I did once many years ago, but he never came near me and ran out as soon as I discovered him....this time was very different.
At Dawson College in Montreal 3 years aago September 13th.
There was a shooting and the guy shot 13 people. 1 died.
The whole school was evacuated. I was on the floor above and ran outside.
Someone claimed there was a second shooter outside and 5000 ppl fled the streets.
I still get traumatized in big crowds.
here you made it seem like somebody SAID thier was a shooting and so you ran outside
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Originally Posted by Stay_Irie
Well We were all victoms.
Any of us could of been shot, and it was a threat.
I dont know.
First year of college 2nd floor heading down to the cafeteria to get food Hearing gunshots and seeing ppl bleed from and lying on the ground. Having to run back up and tell everyone there was a shooter in the school.
Yes in a way I was a victom.
here you say YOU are the one telling ppl there is a shooter! no matter, i have been in the middle of shoot outs..(have seen it happen more than once and on more than one occasion) ..i have been in a situation when the guy behind me was hit with a bullet that passed me on the way to him...growing up in the inner city it is very common!..i do not consider myself a victim of that crime!--of course i was afraid and of course im thankfull to not be the victim of that crime!
but as far as law enforcement...no! they are the worst! she was given some real bad information from ppl in the commmisioners office that told her she could not file certain charges against her assailant cuz he was her astranged husband!...even though they had been separated and living in differnt residences.
her expericne showed me that they dont really care...they took their time even tryna find him once the warrant had been served...cuz they said. "we gotta pick of ppl who are murderer first!.."LOLOL--
This is my experience also...because he is some one actually know they are treating like its not such a big deal....and if i protected myself with my own gun...I would prolly be locked!
Well for me there is a slight difference to being a direct and indirect victim of a crime...I spend lots of time in BX, NY and I have been nearby shootings...its scary as hell and you do get scared, but I now know that when you are the direct victim whose life is threatened its a very different level of violation. Because of the nature f what happened and its still ongoing I will not disclose details. I was attacked this weekend in my own home by someone I once new....the grace of God my son was not here. I cannot begin to tell you how it has effected me. I have literally not slept one wink since it took place. I feel like my adreniline is on overdrive. I feel scared all the time, like no one can really help me. I don't know how long this will last, I am so angry and humiliated by the whole thing. I blame myself a bit cause i idnt check to see if the door was locked after my son left, my emotions are totally out of control...anger sadness anxiety, fear.....paranoia.....and I feel like the police are useless.
i feel you completly on this!
this is some true trama...my sister slept on my sofa for 2 months with her kids becuase she was soooo afraid to go home! i feel for you cuz i watched what she went thru and it was hell....she eneded up moving to get relief from some of her feelings of terror so that she could sleep in her own home again. and it being someone you know makes it doubly traumatizing cuz its often someone you never think would hurt you! its a violation on another level.
speaking to somebody will help....the support groups are ther for you! ppl who have evperienced the same thing as you! i really would try to nip the feelings cuz something soooo traumatizing can cuse you to slip into a very deep depression!--i feel for you and will send prayers your way. I have never expericned it! but i watched my sister deal with it and she is still dealing with it almost a year later!
being part of a shooting weather you were shot or not does make you a victim...your afraid for your life and traumatized.
So people involved in say the Columbine shooting that were not shot you would then say they are not victims, even though they were severely effected and traumatized?
i would consider them lucky to be alive--everybody faces trauma and have tramatic things happen to them!
i think HT said it best! there is a difference between being a direct victim and an indirect one--hell, i was traumatized by seeing my sister that way and the person who hurt her threatened me...he knows where i live as well.....
but oh well, dats why we have these conversations...learn about others views on subjects
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