I dont know anything about from JA, to get a visitor visa he nbeed to prove ties, have money in bank account and it helps if she goes with him to the embassy.

wow you ladies are good!!! Im just moving to JA and hit the states when I need to!!!

That is not what works best for us at this time, Missty. I wish you luck though.

They are getting married in JA on Saturday. They just met for the first time last week, after talking on the phone since March. They have no proof of anything. She will have been with him just 2 weeks by the time she leaves next week. He has not job. He owns nothing. He has no bank accounts. I think they are in for a long hard road.

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it will be next to impossible to get that visa then, yes it will be a very long possibly dissappointing road.

okay so whats the rush to get married???????
I dont get it. marriage is not the answer!!

I will be the first to say "I told you so" if only to Jomo. I have been pushing Paul to keep the job he had (3 months of the perfect job-right up the road from where he lived, no taxi fare at all), wait to marry her, etc. Like talking to a wall. Both of them. How desperate is that on both sides? Sad, I think.

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I think it is desperation. He has nothing....no job, does nothing all day. She is a Jamaican who moved to Canada 18 years ago. I love Paul dearly; but he is no catch. Desperation, pure and simple.

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lol thats funny! well its not funny really.
sad..... but maybe its hard to see your friends be happy as in you and Jomo. Most people try to duplicate what others have but fail. You need to find your own happiness.

I adore Paul and I don't want to see him hurt. I've talked to her quite a bit on the phone too. She's very nice. I just wish they would wait to know each other better and allow him to get his life together a little more. I think that is it in a nutshell..... a lot of Jomo's friends have hung out with us and seen how we are together and they want the same.

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I personally find this a little harsh! For one - your friend may not be a catch to you, but he obviously is to this lady marrying him. Maybe he treats her well, makes her feel good, etc. The rest can come at any time. The great thing about diversity is that there is usually someone out there for everyone.

Also, this might not be desperation, pure and simple! Just because you can't imagine doing it or see what is there doesn't mean that they are desperate. Not everyone can afford to fly to Jamaica every month, and flying from any city in Canada is a lot more expensive than flying from the States. It is hard to spend the time going there and getting to know someone when you can only afford to go there once a year (twice at most). Maybe marrying them isn't the answer, but Canada does not have a fiance visa that would allow the person to come here and then decide if you want to marry them. I am not saying the marriage is the answer, just that it doesn't necessarily scream desperation. It may just look like the only solution at this point.

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yes it can definatley go both ways - people see what you have and want the same, or they are "bad mind" and can't stand to see someone have more than them. We have encountered that part also from people in his area who said it will never last, and look at what you have cause of she.
They don't see the hard work, the sweat and tears that it takes to make a marriage, even relationship work. They don't see when we had no money and literally ate from the land, and would never ask anyone for anything.
We have almost 6 years under our belt, and i will never say its easy but when you find that person everyhting you sacrifice and do for each other is worth it.

amen damswell amen!!

Jamaica man nuh BOW!!!!!!!!!

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LMATFO hey this thing bad fi real.. mi neva see a jamaican do nun a dem tings deh!!!

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Harsh? Really? Didn't mean for it to come out harsh. Just saying they never even spent any time together until last week. Is 9 days of spending time together before your wedding really enough? Are they emotionally prepared?

He has no job. Has only had one for 3 months his entire 29 years. She has a daughter and lives with her father. Are they financially prepared? Is she prepared to support him maybe forever?

Speaking from experience, you have to be prepared to hurry up and wait, to be persistant, patient, and above all else, fork out all kinds of money. Rushing things does not make any of this go away. And, he has to be prepared to step up to the plate and pitch in whenever necessary. It is a very long and difficult process. I think you should truly know all aspects of each other before you proceed.

That is all I was saying. That I want to fly down there, stop the wedding, and say.........Wait. Did you really think this through? Didn't mean for it to sound too harsh. I don't want either of them hurt.

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