Prejudice VS. Preference


definitions are really quite similar... but one seems to have a more sinister sound than the other...

isn't prejudice just a preference????


You just prefer one type of person or thing over another for whatever personal reasons... then you are prejudice against the one you do not choose?

What are your thoughts?

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

the difference (i believe) is that:

YOu prefer something when something suits you better.... but you are prejudiced to something when that hing you dont like..... it how you word something.... like for example

(just example not my opinion)
I prefer a white girl cuz they have big tits....

Some say I am prejudiced to black women cuz i dont like that they have more ass....

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but isn't it really just the same thing Gman...

I mean seriously...

I say I prefer black men... does this mean that I am prejudice to white men... some people would say that...

I have dated a rainbow ... and would continue to... but my preference/prejudice is for black men...

because to me... it seems that in the US... if you prefer one race over another you are automatically assumed to be prejudiced against all others...

you feel me?

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

That has a ring of truth to it, Windy.

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If you've never stared off in the distance, then your life is a shame...

Umm not sure if this is what Gman said but...

I dont think they are the same. there are lots of things you prefer because its what makes you happy.
I think prejudice is when you specifically dont like or stay away from something.

Like I prefer dark skin men but I have no problem with anyone else. That just my preference.
If I go and say I dont like light skin guys because they all are theives then I am acting prejudice.
but if i never liked a light skin guy because i never saw one that caught my eye then thats just it. if i am not dismissing the possibilites based on a generalization then its not prejudice.

nice point missty1029....

and thanks JG... I kind of thought so myself... it is all in how you "interpret" things...

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

I'm saying... yes they are SIMILAR..... and to any layman they would seem like the complete same thing windy, however whats makes them different is the idea they portray...... if you say "G-man is prejudiced to blacks" your saying for some reason i do not like blacks and in turn maybe even hinting that "I prefer whites" ......... and when you say you prefer something you say it cuz u like something aboput that thing (not that you hate somethign about the other thing) , and when you say you are prejudiced to the other thing itmeans you hate something about it( not that you like something about its opposite)

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i knu this is a serious issue but i've gotta laugh so hate me

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what i learned is that to have negative feelings like racism or prejudice against something there has to be some power behind it to mean something.
Meaning If I dont like someone then I just dont like them. If I dont have the power to hire or fire them or effect thier lives in some way then to me its just personal feelings. Parents act prejudiced all the time when their kids bring home a mate. If parents have the ability to say whether you can be with the person or not. But once they lose that power ie you grow up, move out or whatever are your parents prejudice or do they just dislike you mate???

Babyloc said something in the apology thread about power being behind prejudice.

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If you've never stared off in the distance, then your life is a shame...

I think if you look at the definition, they're not the same.

prej·u·dice (prj-ds)n.1. a. An adverse judgment or opinion formed beforehand or without knowledge or examination of the facts.
b. A preconceived preference or idea.

2. The act or state of holding unreasonable preconceived judgments or convictions.
3. Irrational suspicion or hatred of a particular group, race, or religion.
4. Detriment or injury caused to a person by the preconceived, unfavorable conviction of another or others.

Prejudice doesn't have to be necessarily about something you don't like. In the case of definition (1b.) it simply means you decide something before you know. If you think all black men have big d***s, that is really prejudice--even if you like that. Is it fair to make an assumption like that? If I go to the corner store and assume the owner is Korean...that is prejudice--but without intended malice.

Just my thoughts.

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So, by definition, Urban, we are prejudicial all the time, just (hopefully) without malice. Wow, that puts a whole new spin on everything. Not joking here, either. This actually makes me think a little more about the useage of the whole word.

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If you've never stared off in the distance, then your life is a shame...

OMG!!!!!!!!! The examples u use are just awfull!!

By the way.. I don't know how to discuss this topic seeming that I have the preference to talk about things that are less prejudice (???)

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O.A. I was meant 2 luv u..

Well, by that definition... yes. If you look at the root of the word-- it almost looks like "pre-judge" so if you see a person walking down the street and assume you know something about him/her based on....looks, height, walk, smell, race, or whatever... you are prejudging. That's kind of why I had to leave that *other* thread... because if you tell me that I "think" anything because of my race, that is pre-judging me.

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Well there seemed to be a lack of some real topics for some people so I thought that I would create a REAL topic...

to me... depending on your view point they are both just the same thing...

OK... like a lot of pack-a-sacks... (little gas stations in America)... my mom used to call the owners of them all ARABS...

Well they aren't...

is that prejudice without malice?

When people say "African" everyone thinks "black" well I hate to tell you all but a lot of Africans I know are whiter than white... IS that prejudice??? Assuming that all Africans are black????

Like I said... is preference the word we use for inanimates and prejudice the word we use for people? If so, why?


I mean look at this????


prej·u·dice (prj-ds)n.1. a. An adverse judgment or opinion formed beforehand or without knowledge or examination of the facts.
b. A preconceived preference or idea.


That does say "preference" right????


I prefer men to women... for friends... because I have found that I can not trust most women....

Is that prejudice? Or preference?

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10