Gurlssss, trust me.. my jamaican man... he can cook and turn a gurl out AT THE SAME TIME.... So I don't mind waitin' for dinner one bit!!!! haha

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Please dont bother reading my disclaimer I only thought the others were hilarious and I wanted to have one too, so I really dont kno what to write here.. I just want it to be long enough so y'all have to get closer to the screen to read it

ME AGREE too deh Pinchy..
but noh matter what u seh and do, dem nay listen, but hopefully one or two will tek heed, and listen and put de man pon mannazs before dem quick quick fe go send fe de man and possibly go ruin dem lives.
Dem dont realize tha when some of them leave the island that them men, have other women waiting in the wings (yes, they do!) and soon as the foreigners leave, boops, here come the first love (their wife or girlfriend with the kids) and they all sit and laff at them.
Of course u knwo the guy continues with his antics of calling and professing love, and all that.
Aye bwoy. You try to tell dem, but I think like stella, who got her groove on in jamaica, some of them women, old, and feel seh dem must get smaddy young (and worse if dem cant have no more kids - ) that somebody a go pick up a 45-70 year old woman fe love and dem - the man - is only 25 - 30 years old. If something noh wrong with dat picta right deh soh, den them is some foolish and "naive" women.
Dem a go pick up de men, and de men dem noh have nutten fe offer and bring to the table, except the possiblity of finding a job when he gets here.
Some of these poor men, cant tek the cold, and wont work, when dem come here, and find out how hard it is.
Aye sah, leff dem ya Bounty. u hear de story bout 'hard aize??" Mek dem hit dem head gainst wall, and den dem will learn.
Inna dem moments of solitude years lata, dem will retink again, bout what someone, or even we did tell dem, and seh to demselves..
"Man, a true dem did a talk".
Time is the best teacher.

~~~shakin me head~~~~~~~~

Gloom & Doom over and over again!

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girl, gloom doom, soom, whatever u want to call it, no body nay go stop talk when it come to the antics of the jamaican men, and dem quest fe come a foreign. so if u noh like it u fe go siddown.
those of us, dat see it first hand , know it. You dont know it, so u can sit der all willy nilly, inna lall, laa, land, and chat fart. me nay stop chat, so tan deh.
U fe learn fe noh tek things personally like seh me a pint finger pon u. A u de stone hit when it throw inna pig pen?
Me already know and check seh u defensive. Mek the jamaican men defend demselves,cus some of them know dem heart. U noh notice seh a only u foreigners a chat ray, ray, ray, and no jamaican man pon ya a seh nutten fe defend you?
A noh lie we a tell pon dem. every jamaican already know dat age ole story. A long ole time sinting dat a gwan from before all me granny dem born. A only u and only couple of others still inna denial. but, to each his own. Hard aize mek soff behind.
Seen?

Now all I hear is blah, blah, blah..........SSDD!

Done with this topic.

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yes u haffe clean rice
U haffe wash it till it tun clean.
if u note, that if u leave the rice long enoh, that it will have small flies in there. Why is that u ask? It tun flies because tiny eggs are in the rice, and hence the reason why y haffe wash it, and plus sometimes tiny stones in deh too..

Red-de-buggie some Jamaican guys do wanna get to the states but not all......some are just content with females sending cash down to help them survive.....I saw it 1st hand as my boyfriends cousin who stays with him from time to time had all these western union receipts with different womens names on them from different parts of the states/country.....one might ask, how do I know my guy isn't doin that? (answer) I don't know but I can say one thing for sure if he is, more power to him cause he ain't gettin nothin from me. I do love him but hes a grown man and can take care of himself....and as far as him coming to the states, I've been there done that before with the last Jamaican guy I bought here then married. Must admit though the break up was my fault, he's still tryin to get back, im just not intrested.

Key point is, whether in love with a man in the states, Jamaica or any country one must always be careful cause love is a gamble in itself. (I've always dated foreigners and you if think Jamaicans are bad, whoa momma don't let me even get started on those Africans) "no disrespect if their any African dudes on the thread"

[Aye bwoy. You try to tell dem, but I think like stella, who got her groove on in jamaica, some of them women, old, and feel seh dem must get smaddy young (and worse if dem cant have no more kids - ) that somebody a go pick up a 45-70 year old woman fe love and dem - the man - is only 25 - 30 years old. If something noh wrong with dat picta right deh soh, den them is some foolish and "naive" women.
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soooo i must fit into this catagory Or just the plain confused and sad catagory..I have been trying to catch up here and not feel depressed,...but with this I am going to bed..but first I am going to pray.. Pray that I am not doing the wrong thing and that I have not let myself be manipulated...pray that for ONCE in my life the happiness I found could be real...

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"There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom"

What's the problem, Junk?

I pray whatever it is, it works out for you.

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thank u soo very much girl...i need prayers in a big way. So confused...and yet so in love.. I don't want to say much on this thread in fear of being flamed big time. And what I don't need is negativity right now in my life..i doing a good enough job of it myself....

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"There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom"

Junkgypsy:
I know how you are feeling! It is hard not to feel down reading some of the stuff that gets posted on here! But I believe you have to take risks sometimes - just make sure you don't risk more than you have! I went into my relationship knowing full well that I could get burned, but I was willing to take that risk. And so far I don't regret that. I will let you know if I feel that same way in 10 years time!
I hope it will all work out for you.

Thanks so much girl...I went into this fully knowing there were risk and full ready (i thought) to take those risks...but getting cold feet for some reason and unsure about it all now I am not known to always make the "best decisions" expecially when it comes to men

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"There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom"

Theres so much to risk whether its a Jamaican or someone from the states. You have to deal with the individual not the culture. My first major heartbreak was by a Jamaican from the states but I have to move on.
Will one from the country break my heart too? its a possibility.
But whats to guarentee anyone wont break your heart? Just be smart.

Hi Junk . . . I'm new to the board but wanted to step in and introduce myself. I see/feel a little bit of "me" in "you".

6 years ago I went to JA and met a young man (come on now, not "that" young). We spent an incredible evening together and the following 2 days kept missing each other on the island. I left without seeing him to say "goodbye." We communicated via phone for 6 months after my vacation, and when he asked me to return to JA to meet his family, I bought a ticket! 3 weeks before my trip, I "got cold feet" and abruptly ended the communication.

I've lived with that regret for 5 1/2 years. There hasn't been a single day that's gone by that I haven't thought about, and missed, the man I met -- and wondered what "could" have been had I went out there on that limb (isn't that where all the good fruit is?).

Two months ago, I returned to JA. It had been over 5 years since I'd had communication with the man I'd met. Truly, I didn't go back to look for him. We had 5+ years of distance and space separating us. I figured he wouldn't even remember me if I did find him . . .

Well, I wasn't on the island but 15 hours when my heart began tugging at me. I started asking around about him . . . and after 2 days and 3 people (one person called another person and then that person knew his best friend), I located him -- several towns away. I left him a message on his phone, and he called me back the next day! He drove 2 1/2 hours to see me, and we spent 2 glorious days together!!!! I'm flying back in 17 days . . . to meet his family.

Don't live with regrets, Junk.

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What is happening with this, Junk?

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