Opposite Sex Just Friends? Any Such Thing - Jamaica Talk

juslookin · #1 (**permalink**) 09-19-2005, 03:44 PM

There is this girl who calls my guy on a regular basis. Not everyday all day, but sometimes i will see her name on his phone, i try not to look but every now and then i do. and to me its more than enough that shes calling. but he swears that she is just a friend. he says she has been friends with him, his family and his other friends long before we met. i ask him if he ever slept with her of course he said no but that for a brief moment (before we met) they tried hooking up but it didn't work out so they remained friends. Fellas, can you really have a female friend and there's nothing to it? Sistas has this happened to you and how did you handle it. Its really burning me up. I got her name, phone numbers and address but i don't think i could actually have enough nerve to do anything with it.

JamCan · #2 (**permalink**) 09-19-2005, 03:52 PM

Yes its totally possible for opposite sexes to just be friends.....happens all the time. Now if they're Ex's that's a different story but just opposites...no big deal. What are you gonna do? Keep him locked up til the end of time?

JaGoBi · #3 (**permalink**) 09-19-2005, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by juslookin

There is this girl who calls my guy on a regular basis. Not everyday all day, but sometimes i will see her name on his phone, i try not to look but every now and then i do. and to me its more than enough that shes calling. but he swears that she is just a friend. he says she has been friends with him, his family and his other friends long before we met. i ask him if he ever slept with her of course he said no but that for a brief moment (before we met) they tried hooking up but it didn't work out so they remained friends. Fellas, can you really have a female friend and there's nothing to it? Sistas has this happened to you and how did you handle it. Its really burning me up. I got her name, phone numbers and address but i don't think i could actually have enough nerve to do anything with it.

I have a couple female friends like that. Sometimes you realize the chemistry stops at friendship. But maybe he still wants to hit it but she's just not letting him yet. Etiher way, you have two choices, trust him and stop worrying or leave him......

kikikalonji · #4 (**permalink**) 09-19-2005, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by juslookin

There is this girl who calls my guy on a regular basis. Not everyday all day, but sometimes i will see her name on his phone, i try not to look but every now and then i do. and to me its more than enough that shes calling. but he swears that she is just a friend. he says she has been friends with him, his family and his other friends long before we met. i ask him if he ever slept with her of course he said no but that for a brief moment (before we met) they tried hooking up but it didn't work out so they remained friends. Fellas, can you really have a female friend and there's nothing to it? Sistas has this happened to you and how did you handle it. Its really burning me up. I got her name, phone numbers and address but i don't think i could actually have enough nerve to do anything with it.

Yeah there is a such thing as opposite sex friends. I tend to get along with the opposite sex better than same sex. I have had guy friends that never lead to anything and I had one that we tried to have a relationship but it didn't work out and we are friends again.

sunserie · #5 (**permalink**) 09-20-2005, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by juslookin

There is this girl who calls my guy on a regular basis. Not everyday all day, but sometimes i will see her name on his phone, i try not to look but every now and then i do. and to me its more than enough that shes calling. but he swears that she is just a friend. he says she has been friends with him, his family and his other friends long before we met. i ask him if he ever slept with her of course he said no but that for a brief moment (before we met) they tried hooking up but it didn't work out so they remained friends. Fellas, can you really have a female friend and there's nothing to it? Sistas has this happened to you and how did you handle it. Its really burning me up. I got her name, phone numbers and address but i don't think i could actually have enough nerve to do anything with it.

Of course there is such a thing. I have friends of the opposite sex that I am real close with and we call each other on a regular basis. But I also realise that everyone does not think like I think and the insecurities of some will cloud a scenario such as this and they will view this friendship differently. I have one friend in particular, we've been friends for about 13 years who I would say over the last 2 years got serious about a girl and she now lives with him. He and I used to call each other, email you name it everything on a regular basis...well not everything. He would come check me at my yard and vice versa, party together the whole nine yards. But once he got serious with this girl I had to fall back...because I knew she would interpret things the wrong way. I chose to modify the relationship a lot, we're still great friends we just don't spend as much time together, or call like we used to. However when we do check each other the love is still there....because we really are friends!

LuvJamaicanMen · #6 (**permalink**) 09-20-2005, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by sunserie

Of course there is such a thing. I have friends of the opposite sex that I am real close with and we call each other on a regular basis. But I also realise that everyone does not think like I think and the insecurities of some will cloud a scenario such as this and they will view this friendship differently. I have one friend in particular, we've been friends for about 13 years who I would say over the last 2 years got serious about a girl and she now lives with him. He and I used to call each other, email you name it everything on a regular basis...well not everything. He would come check me at my yard and vice versa, party together the whole nine yards. But once he got serious with this girl I had to fall back...because I knew she would interpret things the wrong way. I chose to modify the relationship a lot, we're still great friends we just don't spend as much time together, or call like we used to. However when we do check each other the love is still there....because we really are friends!

I like that.....but not all women are as WISE and unselfish as you, dear SUN....you were WISE enuff to step back cause you know how women get....being that you yourself are a woman...You still concider him your friend, but you utilised your wisdom and discretion, so you avoided the EXCESSIVE contact. Some women or should i say MOST women don;t think like that....they dont think about the feelings of the OTHER woman who is currently involved with the man.

I do think that women and men can be mutual friends without anything futher than just that, but the party involved should also take into concideration the feelings ot their s/o or spouse.
If it is obvious that your s/o or spouse is feeeling uncomfortable about you being so close with the opposite sex, then in my opinion, i think they should try to fix it. It's not like you;re gonna stop talking to the person, but the EXCESSIVE calling should at least cut down...

my 63 cents pon di mattah.

windypace · #7 (**permalink**) 09-21-2005, 12:43 AM

Hmmmmmmm....... do I have any male friends that I haven't slept with at one time or another.......??????

Hmmmmmmm...... Yes.... I have one male friend that I have not slept with.... there I am not so bad after all....

Actually, more than that because I have male friends on ETJ and I haven't slept with any of them...... YET!!!!!

LOL... no seriously I think it is possible to be "just friends" but you have to trust your instincts... if they tell you that he is dippin the friend then he probably is... if they tell you to trust in him then he probably isn't... but you can't let emotions cloud your judgement... sit back and REALLY THINK about the situation...

justsimplifyit · #8 (**permalink**) 09-21-2005, 02:13 AM

im laughing at the new boobie picz from jamcan and windy - where do i get mine??
ok from experience all my guy friends have either wanted sex at sum stage or thought they'd never had a chance and hung around just in case lol....but the best guy friends i have now are those married to my best friends....
If i were U (juslookin) i'd be wanting to know her motive, most girls have motives unless they are not at all attracted to them ....i wish i could be helpful, but i have a hard time trusting unless they prove worthy of it...perhaps you should all have lunch together.........
trust your instincts girl...

sunserie · #9 (**permalink**) 09-21-2005, 10:10 AM

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Originally Posted by LuvJamaicanMen

I like that.....but not all women are as WISE and unselfish as you, dear SUN....you were WISE enuff to step back cause you know how women get....being that you yourself are a woman...You still concider him your friend, but you utilised your wisdom and discretion, so you avoided the EXCESSIVE contact. Some women or should i say MOST women don;t think like that....they dont think about the feelings of the OTHER woman who is currently involved with the man.

I do think that women and men can be mutual friends without anything futher than just that, but the party involved should also take into concideration the feelings ot their s/o or spouse.
[color=#9932cc]If it is obvious that your s/o or spouse is feeeling uncomfortable about you being so close with the opposite sex, then in my opinion, i think they should try to fix it. It's not like you;re gonna stop talking to the person, but the EXCESSIVE calling should at least cut down...[/color]

my 63 cents pon di mattah.

You are absolutely right sweetie?

windypace · #10 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by justsimplifyit

im laughing at the new boobie picz from jamcan and windy - where do i get mine??
ok from experience all my guy friends have either wanted sex at sum stage or thought they'd never had a chance and hung around just in case lol....but the best guy friends i have now are those married to my best friends....
If i were U (juslookin) i'd be wanting to know her motive, most girls have motives unless they are not at all attracted to them ....i wish i could be helpful, but i have a hard time trusting unless they prove worthy of it...perhaps you should all have lunch together.........
trust your instincts girl...

those are actually mine.... I think JamCan said that those aren't hers.... so, take a pic of yours and stick dem on there...

justsimplifyit · #11 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 03:15 AM

I cant get my pics to work says their too big .... the pic is too big not my boobs!! how do u get the one at the bottom of the page aswell??

windypace · #12 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 04:14 AM

You haffa shrinkerage it to itty bitty preportions..... has to be smaller than 50x50 pixels I believe for the avatar....

Star · #13 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 07:39 AM

My husband having a female friend with her nane poping up on his cell phone all the time H@ll No! I am my husband's wife, his friend, his night nurse, Oh Well! whatever the heck he needs, I will be it.

Now a female that he see in passing that's okay if he wants to stand around and have a conversation with her about the weather, no problem. My husband knows how I am, so if he does have female friends, he won't let me know about it, believe me! He knows how craxy I am and he loves his life and me have a male friend, he would never stand for that either but I do have a few LOL LOL LOL......

windypace · #14 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Star

My husband having a female friend with her nane poping up on his cell phone all the time H@ll No! I am my husband's wife, his friend, his night nurse, Oh Well! whatever the heck he needs, I will be it.

Now a female that he see in passing that's okay if he wants to stand around and have a conversation with her about the weather, no problem. My husband knows how I am, so if he does have female friends, he won't let me know about it, believe me! He knows how craxy I am and he loves his life and me have a male friend, he would never stand for that either but I do have a few LOL LOL LOL......

I know you do....

You go Momma Star.....(by the way... that is the ultimate compliment from me)

juslookin · #15 (**permalink**) 09-23-2005, 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by windypace

I know you do....

You go Momma Star.....(by the way... that is the ultimate compliment from me)

so is it ok as long as you don't know about it. my girlfried told me once she don't care if her husband is cheating as long as he doesn't make her feel like he is. as long as he take care of her and make her feel good she couldn't care less. i cant be like, i always want to know for some reason