Ladies, do you feel pressured to get married, or have a baby by the time you are a certain age? Is there any credence to this concept of the "biological clock"? Is it a big deal if you don't get married or have a baby by a certain age?

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Very waggish indeed.

Well I can say my clock started ticking at about 25 and is getting louder as i near 30

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i had my first baby at 18 years old,i have had two more ,i am now 33 years of age and my youngest is nearly ten.i loved having my children early as i am still young enough to go on to do my career which will be in another years time when all my little ones are in high school,i could of carried on working but i didn't want a stranger watching my babies first steps ,first words etc before me they are my proudest moments.for me i wouldn't of wanted my children later in life,with the energy my kidz have got i don't think i would of been able to keep up with them.lol

Well, these days I think the only pressure that is on girls is to have sex before age of consent and ending up with a baby. There are not many ladies left out there who has not had children by the time they are 30, cause majority had them very young or up to the age of 30, so no I don't think there is any pressure to have baby by a certain age cause they all ready have children by that certain age. If you look at this world today you will see baby's having babies.
However, there are those few who like to put career first and whatever age they get to as long as they have fulfilled their dreams they have the baby after, they know they are financially stable to bring a child into this world without the child not have all its needs met.

This biological clock thing was for back in the old days and if there are those few and far between women who have not had children by a certain age, it don't matter anymore. The reason being is that we are looking better for our ages, we are eating better, we can have babies after a certain time its not as riskey as before and if there is any complications we can get help. Remember the 60 yr old mother. There is so much new science going on, or I should say Playing God, going on that anything is possible and there is no need to worry about it anymore, so I don't think people dwell on it.

If you don't have a baby by a certain age people look at you funny, society has a lot to answer for when it comes to dealing with life in general. If your waiting for the right man and he don't come along, what you gonna do, go sperm bank?? Then who you gonna go to for maintance?? How is the child going to know its father?? Society is all wrong, if your blessed with a child concieved naturally,thank the lord, if your not, still thank the lord because these kids these days I would not want one.
Regarding the marriage, what is the percentage rate now that stays married after spening on average 15k on a marriage?? Marriage is not taken seriously these days. Most people would like to get married but from what you see going on around you it puts you off getting married you just end up in debt, hate each other, and that is when the pressure starts.

Well that was my thoughts on your question.

I don't really feel my "clock" ticking. I had my son when I was 19 and have never really considered having more kids, mainly because I've been pretty much single all along. I might carefully consider it again eventually but its not something that's constantly on my mind.
I'm like Catherine, I enjoyed being a young mom because I'm pretty much interested in everything my son does, and have the energy to want to keep up with him.

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I don't think the biological clock is about outside pressure, its about inside yourself, if there is something in you saying hey time to get married and have some kids now. That is what I'm talking about that other is peer pressure that makes kids and teens go into sexual relationships to soon. Everyone on this site knows my story I was a virgin until 27 years old last October. But as I said before since I turned 25 something inside of me has been saying Hey! You finished the school thing and did what you had to do, now it's time to settle down and start the other. There is something in me that says I'm supposed to be a Mommy, and I want to be a Mommy, but I will be a wife first, that is just the rules I set for me a long time ago.

P-Control, ya know what I'm sayin...

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Deja I admire you for that too. I always thought I'd get married and then have kids but things happen and it came out the other way around. I just had the kid, no marriage in site!

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Jam I admire single mothers, I know that a hard job but I know that's not a route I want to take. When I have children I want to be able to take off work and just take care of my child, if I'm maried there is a second income already in place and ther's no pressure. I am NOT good under stress, LOL not moneywise anyway.

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I know I'm still young and all so I don't feel no rush to have kids or get married. But definately would love to do that someday. However, it does feel like the days and years are passing by fast...at least so it feels. BUt if I take a step back and look....I have nuff time.

The 'biological clock' was built has a reminder that hey, stuff needs to happen before you hit this age cause time is going by. I think that in this era now, many people's focus is not on this 'clock' but moreso on accomplishing something for themselves then having kids, getting married etc.

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u know i admire singles moms that are doing there best for their child. even though its something that they should do..it seem to me that its rare that moms actually appreciate the jewl that they have in their arms to the fullest.

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ok am still young but would love to have a child someday but not anytime soon.

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i look at it the same way jc. i've heard my clock ticking for a few years and a small part of me is concerned because i do want to have some babies before my eggs get too old (lol). i had to hit the snooze button too cause devin is a high maintenance knucklehead. i do have some good news though...finally, after 17 months of fostering, devin will be officially adopted on sept. 13th! he can finally come with me to jamaica.

Take it from me! Take your time and enjoy your life becaue when the kids start pouring in with all the snotty nosess and dooky pampers you going to scream and say OH God why me.....children are a joy but also a big responsibility and you should prepare yourself mentally for that and don't have a baby and then pack them up and send them off to grandma's house!

I have never burden my mother with my children unless she asked for them, other then that I raised my own children and they never stayed with a babysitter.

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