Did becoming a parent stop you from pursuing some dream or ambition you had? How did you cope with that? How do you plan to fulfill that dream while raising your family?

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"Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake." - Matthew 5 v11 KJV

Very waggish indeed.

Good thread but what about the people who never have no pickney?

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Ummmm... did ya know anyone who that happened to? How'd they deal with it?

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"Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake." - Matthew 5 v11 KJV

Very waggish indeed.

Very good thread although I feel what I'm about to write should be in the confessions thread instead.

I wouldn't call it a dream but when I was 18 in the same week I I got accepted to college I also found out I was pregnant. It was a real tough choice for me to make because I knew that whichever choice it was would change my life forever....and it did. So I didn't go to college obviously because I have a 12 yr old now. I did however, go back to school when I was 25.

This is the confession part.....I hope y'all dont hate me after....when I found out I looked into ALL my options for real and the only thing that saved my son's life was one week. So that was the sign I needed that he was meant to be here. Although I do think I missed out on a lot of my fun years from being a young parent who had to grow up. HOWEVER....there's a happy ending. I'm having fun now....more than ever. In the last few years I've really started to enjoy life and see my son as a bonus not a burden.

Does that sound horrible?

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BEING a parent hinders my dreams... but I love my daughter so it is worth it... will I eventually be able to fulfill my dreams/ambitions... maybe... but probably not while she is still in my house.

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

No.....

Before becoming a parent I did not have a focus in life..after I had my son is when I became more responsible and decided what I wanted to do in life.

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I'm with you, MsIncognito. I did give up a dream to parent my daughters (divorced their father before they turned 1), but I have no regrets. Parenting them has given me a reason to be stable and better myself!

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LOL its obvious I wrote this BEFORE all the trouble started! But I still know there's a reason he's here.

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JC -- I can totally relate to your posts. I've parented my twins alone for 13 years. Their father has seen them 2x in 13 years. Sometimes it feels like it's me and them against the world. I do not get every other weekend to myself or 2 nights a week alone. I have responsibility 24/7 . . . and it's been really difficult . . . and I've felt as if 13 years of my life have been wasted. It's only been the past year or so that I have started thinking about "me" again -- and started to enjoy my life. The girls have certainly added value to my life, but it hasn't been easy.

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Isn't it hard being honest about that Lilly? I sometimes feel guilty about it. But NOW.....I don't get my son at all so I feel its a privilege to visit him for an hour a day on weekends. Its difficult when they're in your care, but scary when they aren't.

I feel differently now anyways because I know in a few years when he leaves the nest, YES I'll have my freedom back to pursue my dreams but at the same time I'll probably still be a "mom" and miss him to death.

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Yes . . . it's hard to be honest, JamCan -- and yes, I feel guilty when I do. I've always said that life is a giant circle, and in 4 years, that part of the circle will be closed and I'll have all the freedom I want. The girls will be gone and I'll have only myself to care for. Funny though, I don't think it will be as much as fun as I once thought. I'll miss them . . . and worry.

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Lilly we need to start a support group! LOL

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Yes. Let's do that. We'll meet in JA ever Saturday evening at Margaritaville!

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WORD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm there.

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In general having pickney nah hinder yuh fi do nuttn, it's bein a mom/parent that hinder yuh cah di pickney nah aks fi born fram ur p*ssy, ah we self wha put dem deh so maybe yuh haffi suffa, but nah dem hinder yuh dreams, ah yuh wha hinder yuh own dreams, so di question kool... I am about to vent...

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