OK, We all know that divorce today is as common as switching your cellular phone carrier. It has been used as an excuse,...Sorry..a "reason" by some people, for not tying the knot. For some who are willing to make the plunge they are quick to admit that though they love their mate to be, they are not so certain IF they REALLY want to spend the rest of of their life with that person.
Shockingly, some have even admitted that they werent quite sure if they loved the person but since the opportunity arose, they were willing to take the plunge and find out along the way.

How do you feel about it?
Do you think that its OK for someone to marry even if they don't really want to the spend the rest of their life with the other person?
What if they love them but am not sure about the "Forever" part, should they wait until they are certain, or should they go ahead and whatever happens, happens?

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"In this great future, you can't forget your past. " Bob Marley (1945 - 1981)

if they are not certain, they should not marry! but then again, everyone is aware that there are no guarantees!! AND EVERYONE has some kinda second thoughts prior to marrying, i think the key is to have a bond of freindship and love and respect and a deication to maintaining those.....and it greatly improves the chances of success!!
ALSO, ppl should know that it is hard work and everyday wont be rosey and happy, and understand hard times will come and just have a determination to see thru those times!

PS: some experts suggest that any relationship (*in its original form) has a 10 year life span and that marriages should be for a period of 10 years with an option to renew after the expiratory period!
*some ppl are lucky to be able to grow together and therfore, their 10 year period can be extended!

waht u think about that?

Yes, there are no gurantees in life but that has nothing to do with whether one is certain going in. The question is whether or not they should do it IF they are not absolutely sure that they want to stay with that person forever. In an ideal world its easy to say that one shouldnt unless they are sure, but what if (for example) a woman has x number of children with her baby daddy and has been with him for Y number of years, BUT she does nt love him. Shoudl she refuse his offer of marriage or take the opportunity; since he offered??

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"In this great future, you can't forget your past. " Bob Marley (1945 - 1981)

the fact that u know there are no guarantees in life makes me know that u did have a thought about it! i never said before or after the decision being made...u still had a thought about it!

u cant ever be certain when u know that there are no guarantees!


i think this has already been answered---NO! not uless she knows she wants to spend her life with him...X amount of years of past has nothing to do with even a single year of the future!

I believe in the union of marriage, that is what it is a union, merger, u become one, or at least half of one...but, its not meant for everyone..if u not prepared to go through thick and thin, sickness and health with that person, then he/or she is not the one!

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I just think we have way too much 'easy ways out' ... as soon as s**t hits the fan many marriages start to crack. I have spent the last 5 years wondering if there is really any point contemplating marriage. Also, people commit to having children together all the time and often without a second's thought for the long term. It just appears way too easy to back down when the going gets tough.

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