Giving or Taking in a Relationship...Selfless or Selfish - Page 2 - Jamaica Talk

Alex4Ja · #16 (**permalink**) 11-03-2009, 01:00 AM

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Originally Posted by windypace

I try not to expect anything but what anyone would give...

I mean there comes a time when I am the one who is tired and need to be babied a bit...

Not often but it does happen... so yes... I suppose I do expect someone I am in a relationship with to pamper ME every once in a while...

And I don't feel guilty about that... I think it is something I deserve.

And by no means should you feel guilty.

windypace · #17 (**permalink**) 11-03-2009, 01:10 AM

I used to... I used to think that I was such a witch because I wanted something in return... I mean love is all about giving right...

Well I am too old and have too many responsibilities... I need someone that will shoulder the load with me... not just dump more on my shoulders.

lbelly · #18 (**permalink**) 11-03-2009, 10:53 AM

I need attention, i crave for it, and if a man can help himself, im not interested! lol

Alex4Ja · #19 (**permalink**) 11-03-2009, 11:49 AM

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Originally Posted by windypace

I used to... I used to think that I was such a witch because I wanted something in return... I mean love is all about giving right...

Well I am too old and have too many responsibilities... I need someone that will shoulder the load with me... not just dump more on my shoulders.

Thats not asking too much. But True Love should be willing to give without expecting anything in return. We all give love and expect love in return but thats not TRUE LOVE. True love is willing to give with no expectations of love in return.

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Originally Posted by lbelly

I need attention, i crave for it, and if a man can help himself, im not interested! lol

Thats a fair assessment as well.

Dallas76 · #20 (**permalink**) 11-12-2009, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Alex4Ja

Too much selfishness will cause you to lose him/her.
Too much selflessness will cause you to lose yourself.

You just have to be aware and strike a happy medium.

Well put and so true!