Proper Celibacy - Page 2 - Jamaica Talk

LeesaJ · #16 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by lbelly

Oh no, im totally a guy when it comes to sex, if i actually go out with u, spend time on u, i better get some! I don't waste time on "small" guys, and um if ur big enough, i'll give u another chance, if u don't get it right the first time! lol

Ah.

What I really need is a friend with benefits up here until the right guy comes along. Have one in Ja but that's a long ways away................

lbelly · #17 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by JamCan

None of us handle it well I'm sure.

SPICE I don't think you're gonna get the answers you want in this thread because I think we all handle things differently and each situation is its own case. I know for sure I screw up LOLOL no pun intended.

Well, what do u think, u are religious, do u think that God meant that u can do everything else, but have intercourse, before marriage? I don't, that doesn't even come close to making sense to me...If she is doing it for her own reasons, then having any type of foreplay is teasing him and her, IMO...

Alex4Ja · #18 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Lillywight

Slippery slope, Spice. If you're testing anything, eventually you'll slip, trip and fall.

If I'm "not going there" -- I'm not going there, period!!!! I don't wanna neck and pet and have somebody heat me up if it's not going further.

Just my opinion. Hugs and innocent kisses only.

100% on the money.
If you have no intention to swim, don't go to the edge of the pool to dip your toe into the water. You just might fall in.

Mrs. Groovy 144 · #19 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by JASpice

The intent of this thread isn't to debate wether one should be celibant or not, nor is it to get all dutty and graphic!

What I am curious about is how peeps practice such a thang while getting to know if the other person will actually fit the bill. You know...test out the goods without testing.

Now, this crowd may be a difficult one to answer such a question...maybe not. So...

What in your opinion, is the expected limit of discovery??

How far is really to far??

Is it proper to even have a peek??

When getting intimate, are there specific ways that you heard of or know of in order to control and stop yourself from going to the point of no return??

Basically...WHAT do you know of celibacy??

(please help keep this discussion mature... I'm really trying to get some valid input on it....ty )

Celibacy- Dont do nutn, don't think nutn, don't even put yourself in the situation for nutn to to happen.
Why make it harder for yourself?

lbelly · #20 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 12:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Groovy 144

Celibacy- Dont do nutn, don't think nutn, don't even put yourself in the situation for nutn to to happen.
Why make it harder for yourself?

I agree........

JASpice · #21 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 02:56 PM

Good points all....

BUT.... how do you know if they would be ideal if you do nuttin? I have to be honest.... some men do not have what it takes and it would kinda stink to wait until after vows are met.

Is this something that you actually talk about without testing it? Is it improper to ask the other about themselves and their experience?

Do you really go into this blinded???

lbelly · #22 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by lbelly

But u can feel him to see what size he is, i mean, if he is large enough, then u don't need to worry about his skills, u'll be able to work that bad boy urself! lol

Also, i mean, are u being celibate for religious reasons, or u just dont want to sleep around?

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JASpice · #23 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by lbelly

To what stage, making out?

Yes... what are appropriate stages and what is not??

DO you only kiss and hangout in each others arms on cozy evenings?

Do you get even closer, but keep hands above the neck ofr below the knee, but not in between?

Do you allow a little more wandering without restricted areas??

How about clothing removel...is that to far and not considered celibant at that point??

Or is all game if there is control..as long as the dead doesn't happen???

lbelly · #24 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by JASpice

Good points all....

BUT.... how do you know if they would be ideal if you do nuttin? I have to be honest.... some men do not have what it takes and it would kinda stink to wait until after vows are met.

Is this something that you actually talk about without testing it? Is it improper to ask the other about themselves and their experience?

Do you really go into this blinded???

I had one guy, we were talking for a min, texting, blah blah, he promised up and down that he could do the job and um if it wasn't for the fact that i was in heat, i don't think he could have, so um, talking does nothing, they are not going to admit that their package is not up to par!

JASpice · #25 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by lbelly

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I missed that quote!! And ur right... I could definitely teach him a thing or two if he fit the requirements!

But how do you find out the requirements...what is appropriate or not??

And to answer the other question.... religious reasons.

lbelly · #26 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by JASpice

Yes... what are appropriate stages and what is not??

DO you only kiss and hangout in each others arms on cozy evenings?

Do you get even closer, but keep hands above the neck ofr below the knee, but not in between?

Do you allow a little more wandering without restricted areas??

How about clothing removel...is that to far and not considered celibant at that point??

Or is all game if there is control..as long as the dead doesn't happen???

I personally, can do none of the above and be left empty handed, he would never hear from me again, but hun, if u can find a guy who will go for being teased with no "happy ending" then like i say, more power to u!

lbelly · #27 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by JASpice

I missed that quote!! And ur right... I could definitely teach him a thing or two if he fit the requirements!

But how do you find out the requirements...what is appropriate or not??
And to answer the other question.... religious reasons.

Well, i mean, u know the difference between big and small, right? lol Im hung up on size, a likkle man cyan do nuttin fa me, but a big one, well, I can't handle that myself! But if its for religious, do u think that God would give the ok for u to do all of the above, just as long as u save intercourse for marriage?

JASpice · #28 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by lbelly

I had one guy, we were talking for a min, texting, blah blah, he promised up and down that he could do the job and um if it wasn't for the fact that i was in heat, i don't think he could have, so um, talking does nothing, they are not going to admit that their package is not up to par!

This may be true. SO...... how would one be appropriate about it?

Would a show and tell be out of question?? If so..that could turn out to be even more uncomfy and cruel if he's not to par.

JASpice · #29 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by lbelly

Well, i mean, u know the difference between big and small, right? lol Im hung up on size, a likkle man cyan do nuttin fa me, but a big one, well, I can't handle that myself! But if its for religious, do u think that God would give the ok for u to do all of the above, just as long as u save intercourse for marriage?

Hence my dilema..... I very much know the difference of size and it does make a difference IMO. (ok..now I'm stepping a little bit out of my element here )

As for religious purposes..... I realize and except the fact that intercourse before marriage is wrong and for this reason I will try to do right. As such...this is why I brought this topic up...trying to understand how far or not another should go.

The other issue is...some would say it doesn't matter, if you are in-love it will work itself out. Unfortunately, I have a very difficult time believing that. Intimacy is a VERY important element to a lasting relationship. It's right up there with the religion itself, money, & children.

Mrs. Groovy 144 · #30 (**permalink**) 06-05-2009, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by JASpice

Good points all....

BUT.... how do you know if they would be ideal if you do nuttin? I have to be honest.... some men do not have what it takes and it would kinda stink to wait until after vows are met.

Is this something that you actually talk about without testing it? Is it improper to ask the other about themselves and their experience?

Do you really go into this blinded???

Ideal at what???? Sex?..If you have developed a love relationship with that person...why should it really matter? If they are not 'ideal', couldn;t it be something you both can work on together?