Dear ETJ,
I have an issue dats been bothering me an I juss wanted to get a feedbakk pon dis.
My wife of 5 years asked mi 2 weeks ago fi accompany ar to her daughter's college graduation in Ohio. We wudd fly there di nite before, stay at a 'otel for the night, then fly back in the evening of the graduation. Because I recently started this new job (4 weeks) I was not able to take the time off to attend the function, so she went alone. She called me the evening of the graduation and told me that she felt bad that she was rushing back on the flight and she decided to stay an extra day and have post graduation dinner with har daughter. I didnt 'ave an issue with that.
This weekend her daughter came home and amidst her excitement of showing me her diploma, and pictures of the graduation on her digital camera, I was stunned to see pictures of my wife posing alongside her daughter and her daughter's father, whom I was told previosuly, had no contact with her nor was available for the graduation.
After a few smart probing questions to the daughter I discovered that not only was her father there but he also stayed the extra night in Ohio.
I am mad as heck and steaming about di 'ole affair but still 'avent found a way to approach my wife about the issue.
Should I just presume that nothing else happened between her and the kids father and just leave it alone?
Should I ask her about it and risk revealing what I learned from her daughter?
Do I 'ave a right to question her about what she did or did not do with repsect to her daughters father?
How would you handle it?
Signed: Mad as 'ell.
She is yuh wife, you have all right to ask and probe!!!!!
Tanks on this original point of view.
She must have figured that this man was intensly devopted to his business. Sh eappeared to ahve accpeted it thus far for so many years, to the point that they have bought and live in a house together.
Now she is makig him out to be a villain and desire for him to change.
Good perspective, MrsG.
Seems to me like she thought, as all of us woman do, "He will change"...And, as it most always happens, he didn't!
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Dear ETJ,
I have an issue dats been bothering me an I juss wanted to get a feedbakk pon dis.
My wife of 5 years asked mi 2 weeks ago fi accompany ar to her daughter's college graduation in Ohio. We wudd fly there di nite before, stay at a 'otel for the night, then fly back in the evening of the graduation. Because I recently started this new job (4 weeks) I was not able to take the time off to attend the function, so she went alone. She called me the evening of the graduation and told me that she felt bad that she was rushing back on the flight and she decided to stay an extra day and have post graduation dinner with har daughter. I didnt 'ave an issue with that.
This weekend her daughter came home and amidst her excitement of showing me her diploma, and pictures of the graduation on her digital camera, I was stunned to see pictures of my wife posing alongside her daughter and her daughter's father, whom I was told previosuly, had no contact with her nor was available for the graduation.
After a few smart probing questions to the daughter I discovered that not only was her father there but he also stayed the extra night in Ohio.
I am mad as heck and steaming about di 'ole affair but still 'avent found a way to approach my wife about the issue.
Should I just presume that nothing else happened between her and the kids father and just leave it alone?
Should I ask her about it and risk revealing what I learned from her daughter?
Do I 'ave a right to question her about what she did or did not do with repsect to her daughters father?
How would you handle it?
Signed: Mad as 'ell.
In this case, hell yea i would be mad, so what, was she going to surprise her husband with the father being there, or just acted like she didn't know he was going to be there, and, still didn't tell her husband before he agreed to her staying an additional night! Shiii, that wouldn't hang in my house!!!
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In this case, hell yea i would be mad, so what, was she going to surprise her husband with the father being there, or just acted like she didn't know he was going to be there, and, still didn't tell her husband before he agreed to her staying an additional night! Shiii, that wouldn't hang in my house!!!
Yeah..when she ask fi di additional nite she KNEW the father was there..so why she didn;t mention it on the phone to him????????
Yeah..when she ask fi di additional nite she KNEW the father was there..so why she didn;t mention it on the phone to him????????
Yea, that's what im sayin, even if she was going to play it off like she didn't know he would be there, she still should have said something when she asked if she could stay an additional night.
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Yea, that's what im sayin, even if she was going to play it off like she didn't know he would be there, she still should have said something when she asked if she could stay an additional night.
hmm...sneaky... di man ave all right fi be mad...
I would probe, ask, question, might even get a lie detector machine!!
I just saw a friend of mine and she said, "Girl, my husband is going out of town for a couple of days, we gotta hang out!" I said, "Why, u can't hang out when he's here? That's a shame!" People are crazy...
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I just saw a friend of mine and she said, "Girl, my husband is going out of town for a couple of days, we gotta hang out!" I said, "Why, u can't hang out when he's here? That's a shame!" People are crazy...
LOL...... maybe cause he likes her around when he is there.
LOL...... maybe cause he likes her around when he is there.
lol, thats a nice way to put it!!! Can u imagine your husband sitting around making plans with his friends excited about u going out of town! That is pathetic!!! I would scalp his rass! lol Lockdown doesn't work, the person has to want to be there...
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lol, thats a nice way to put it!!! Can u imagine your husband sitting around making plans with his friends excited about u going out of town! That is pathetic!!! I would scalp his rass! lol Lockdown doesn't work, the person has to want to be there...
She is yuh wife, you have all right to ask and probe!!!!!
\ LOL. I almost forgot about this one.
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Originally Posted by lbelly
In this case, hell yea i would be mad, so what, was she going to surprise her husband with the father being there, or just acted like she didn't know he was going to be there, and, still didn't tell her husband before he agreed to her staying an additional night! Shiii, that wouldn't hang in my house!!!
So, suppose she didnt know that he was goona be there until she got there? And maybe she didnt want to say anything fior fear of drawing said suspicions.
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Originally Posted by Mrs. Groovy 144
Yeah..when she ask fi di additional nite she KNEW the father was there..so why she didn;t mention it on the phone to him????????
I dunno. Maybe she felt better waiting until she returned home?
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hmmm.... if i was in ur friends situation, i would have to ask myself is this what i really want?
Her fiance, maybe grew up thinking that you have to spend money to keep ur girl happy by his parents relationship or he may be under the impression its what she wants (obv not). He it sounds like he loves her otherwise he wouldn't spend so many hours working hard to have money and buy her expensive gifts, let alone ask her to marry him. What he has to realise is u could have all the money in the world but it don't buy happiness, maybe why he is getting angry is cos hes doing it for their life together, to give her a comfortable home, maybe give himself what he ain't got, for their future or offsprings future; but doing that is not getting the "right reaction". It's what you can accept or can't accept, no one is perfect, but it sounds like its worth saving because its genuine; he is pulling all the stops on what he thinks will make her happy and she doesn't want that but genuine time together. Have dinner together? arrange a time when its ok for both of u to go on a date? spend the morning in bed? spice it up a little? watch a movie together? spend a good hour together talking about ur day etc etc. start it off easy and say to him when she knows he will be listening (or email him when hes on the laptop lol) "I love u, I really appreciate what your doing for us and I appreciate u for being u. But I would really like it if we got to spend some genuine time together, because i don't think we have much, I'm just telling you what I'm feeling, because I feel the time we do spend together is not enough". If he still don't change and u really have tried... maybe its best to call it a day or do something drastic, at least u said u tried.
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