I do not know about the rest of you... but lately it means much more to me to find a good relationship than to find good sex...

I have had so much good sex in my past that it should last me until the end of time... but I can not honestly say that I have ever had a truly good relationship...

I have had some relationships that I learned some very good lessons from... but I feel now that I am in a place where I am emotionally and spiritually secure and ready to share my life with someone that is as equally ready as I am...

What is more important to you? The relationship or the sex...

For me the relationship is definitely most important and if the relationship is all that it should be... good sex should just follow...

Tell me your thoughts.

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

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I agree with you windy. I think of good sex as a part of a good relationship, and all the things that 1stP mentioned as also part of a good relationship.

For me, the foundation of a good relationship is respect, love, honesty, etc. (see 1st's list above). My feeling is that it's much easier to start with that and work on the sex if it's not perfect, rather than starting with good sex and trying to manufacturer all the other stuff...

Yes I feel the same way Tracee...

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

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LOVE LOCKDOWN

I agree with all the ladies that posted earlier. You have to be comfortable and safe with the person you are with in order to enjoy good sex.

There is no pressure, no hollywood spotlight or egos to make you double-think your emotions or actions.

Sex should just flow naturally and you enjoy it alot more once you have a good relationship with the person FIRST.

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well said mi bretherin...

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Sorry you have not had a good relationship. But, I believe, when it is your time, the right man will be put in your life. Yes, the relationship should be before the sex. I have found, that generally, if sex is first the relationship usually doesn't work out. But I have to be honest about myself. All the sex I have had will never last til the end of time. I have had many good relationships and have one now. But if I didn't, I wouldn't be adverse to casual sex, it's just one of life's pleasures. Call me a ****, but at my age every day above ground is a gift and I want to live it to the fullest. I suspect you are much younger. At that age the relationship is important. Be patient.

IMO good sex is pretty easy to find. A good relationship is MUCH harder to find and for me, finding a good relationship is more important cuz the Lord knows I haven't had a lot of luck in that department. And sex would eventually be an important part of that relationship, but the otherfactors "respect, love, honesty, trust, emotional and spiritual connection, physical attraction" need to be present first.

In the meantime, I can take care of myself.......

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It's about learning to dance in the rain!

Everyone is to remain single. Using men only for reproducing and shiny things.

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I fixed the typos in your post

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I have been on a dating hiatus for that very reason and a couple of others. I am fortunate in that I have recently met someone who actually brings alot to the table and not just his mantool.

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congratulations butta... I wish you much happiness...

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

The relationship is the number one most important thing, sex can be worked on. My ex and I had a good sexual relationship and that was all. It wasn't enough to sustain us for the long haul. My relationship now was based on friendship first and we are going on 9yrs....and the sex is great too!!!

Thanks Windy!

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