Originally Posted by LoveOfMyLife

I should have used a better thread to start my conversation, but this is all true. I am too old to play on the net and why would I waste my time....I just needed some place to get the thoughts out. I'm sorry I came on her now.

And if I were you, I wouldn't let too many people know that you play on the net because then no one will take you seriously.

And I really don't owe you an explanation.....If you are playing on the net then you must not really have too much going on in your life Missy.

Originally Posted by Jomo's girl

It's okay to come on here and talk out loud. We don't have all the answers; but we'll sure listen and try.

Originally Posted by LoveOfMyLife

I've tried writing her, but she decided that she didn't want the friendship any longer and I have to respect that.

Originally Posted by Lady Rasta

and to this i say..i play a different type of game..i entertain mysef...i dont make up stories and pretend to be other that what and who i am...No you dont owe me an explanation, but you put your bizness on the net and therefor its a free for all...

but if you really have a drug/alchohol problem, then i do wish you luck with that......that other stuff is just wack!

Originally Posted by buttafli

Well then it's time to move on with your life. Sometimes the best lesson is the bought lesson. Hopefully, you have learned from this and as far as her ex-husband you should for about him. If you are trying to better yourself, the last thing you need is drama.

Originally Posted by Jomo's girl

Girls.....let's not fight, please.

Everyone has a right to their opinion. We don't have to agree with everyone all the time.

Lady Rasta has some valid points. On this topic, I don't happen to share them; but they are still valid.

Love.....do not apologize. All threads add to this board and we welcome them.


Have you stopped drinking? If so, how? If not, what are you doing about that?

Originally Posted by LoveOfMyLife

I have stopped drinking and I'm trying to make sense of my life now. My therapist said I experienced something called enmeshed with my friend, we didn't seperate our roles. It's like she was living for the both of us and now that she is out of my life I am learning to live for myself now. It's hard but I am making strides. I have a longely existence right now and just wanted to talk to someone outside of the rehab center.

Originally Posted by Jomo's girl

So, what are you going to do next, Love?

I really haven't thought much about what's next. I'm trying to stay sober.

What are some of your goals?

Originally Posted by Jomo's girl

You really cannot go back and fix it. You have to move on.

Focus on fixing what you can in yourself and living life conscientious of how you live and the effect you have on others. Forgive yourself for the past and make the future better. That's really all you can do.

No one is perfect, Love. We all make mistakes.

Originally Posted by Princessblack

NO!!!

Exes or bfs or man of ANY friends are offlimits.

Just ethics.

Originally Posted by LoveOfMyLife

The woman is no longer my friend....
She was a good friend for so many years and I did so many bad things to her. I would get drunk and do all kinds of things. I urinated on her brand new carpet one time. I sleep with her husband several times and I recently shared all this with her. I tried to hurt her and thought she would be a Christian about it and forgive me and we move on, but she went off on me and ended our 27 year friendship. The sad thing about this is that she had taken care of me for so long, I really didn't know how to function on my own.

I was a mess. She made all my decisions for me, took care of everything. I even convined her to move down to Raleigh. She and her family moved down there and all hell broke loose. My mom came down and brought me back to CT to rehab. My friend went to my house to take care of it and her ex husband called. To make a long story short. She found out that he and I had an affair, she found out he had children with another woman...etc...