.........Ok this is a lighthearted fun thread please!!

Well I have been single for some time now and I have enjoyed my space and freedom to do exactly what I want not answerable to anyone....no picking up of smelly socks, or constantly having to put the tiolet seat down, no I dont eat this or I want that, no waking up at 4am in the morning with you know what stabing me in my back........but recently I 've started to feel a little...just alittle envious of my girlfriends all of whom are fortunate enough to have good husbands.

Di questions....

Have you had a period of being single for a long time?.......

and if so and you are no longer single did you actively seek out a partner or just stumbble across one?.......

and did you then miss your freedom or was the relationsip worth giving up your freedom for, or did you maintain both?

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Hole ON!!!!

No yu mi tink did a boast bout yu man, juss couple a weeks ago???!!!!

Whapen???

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Wha?

Den yu no shudda tell mi, gal; mekk mi hook yu up lang time...

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Yu feel sey you couldda hangle me dough????....mi nuh tink so yuh nuh....mi rough

Anywayz hansa di questian!!

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'angle yu??
Cho! Yu a small fries, Man.

If mi can angle wan british challenger tank, whe mi caan angle?

annyway...yu affi wait till later fi get mi answa...Mi ave a date wid a broken computer.

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...little voice in my head giving me the 'what ifs'... and the 'if onlys'....

alas.. Unrequited love is what it shall be.

I think I go say it with a song...

You are not alone Selector

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Define a long time... or perhaps I should say define "single"

I am not "actively" seeking anyone though they do seek me quite frequently.

I don't know if I would miss my freedom or not... I've been "free" by my terms for a long time (divorced Jan 2002 left him in October 2001)... and I do feel that I am ready to settle... but not sure if I am ready to deal with all the drama that seems to come with all new relationships.

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

Yes ma'am... see above post

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

Okay here is my answer 1st.......I have been divorced for about 8 yrs....I have lived alone for all of that time....well with my children but not with a man. I had on long term relationship in that space of time for about 4 yrs but he lived about an hour away so he was not here much, we never lived together. I am now in a long distance relationship, we talk about being married and this is my biggest anxiety about it all. I am so used to being alone doing things my way, not having to accomodate anyone.....sometimes in the dark of night in the very deepest part of my head, I worry that as much as i love him, that I won't be able to give up my independence. Or I wonder how will that adjustment be.....will I be able to make it

Though I enjoy the companionship of a relationship and the solace that it brings, I TRULY enjoy my solitude.

I know in my heart that deep down I am a family oriented, "marrying" type (No shacking up for me) and so I revel in my extended hiatus for the time being; until she (whomever she may be) starts pulling on the rope around my neck.

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"A long time would have to be" by your own measurement. I have not been in a relationship with any man since I got saved again in July 2004, so that to me is a loooooooong time.

And I have not had to seriously consider the needs of a partner, as in share my home space, household chores, work comittments, personal interests and so on since the end of my 19 year relationship with the father of my children and that was back in 1999.

As for your last comment Windy I relate to that too 100%....... not only that I really am not sure I am ready for the committment of a relationship even though I miss the obvious benefits

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