Intercultural Relationships - Jamaica Talk

IslandPrincess · #1 (**permalink**) 07-23-2004, 02:23 PM

Anyone currently in one? I'm dating a Nigerian guy. Very nice person and easy to get along with. I understand a lot about his culture as my best friend is Nigerian; no she didn't hook us up, it just happened. Anyway, I"m currently working on teaching him a few things about my Jamaican culture...food, language etc.,

The cultural diffence can get in the way of our communication styles at times and has caused a couple of uproars. How are things working for any Jamaicans on here, dating someone of a different culture.

JamCan · #2 (**permalink**) 07-23-2004, 02:32 PM

Hey Island, first of all welcome to our likkle site. You gonna love it!

As for your question.....I've dated Jamaican and Nigerian men. Not sure what it is about the Nigerians but I find them rude. And this isn't just from one experience...my best friend is married to a Nigerian and I'm surrounded by a pretty big Nigerian community. For the most part I find them rude, and scandalous, and they're BAD liars too. Not a big fan of them. Plus they WILL NOT go down on a woman no matter what!!

I'm nuts about the Jamaicans though. Yes I've also encountered rude and scandalous Jamaicans too but with them its not a blanket statement. And they don't tend to lie, they just straight and you deal with it how you want. Plus a Jamaican WILL go down on me, he just don't tell his friends! LOL

I know this is your first post and I don't want to start off on the wrong foot with you at all! Plus I know your question wasn't JUST about Nigerians. But those are the only 2 I've dated so I had nothing else to throw in there. I'm sure things will work out just fine with your man!

HONEYPYE · #3 (**permalink**) 07-23-2004, 02:44 PM

WELCOME ABOARD *IslandPrincess* I am not in an Interculture relationship.....but I'll tell you this I have heard that African men are EXTREMLY POSSISIVE I'm not saying ALL of them though . Good luck girl, hope to see you around often.

JamCan · #4 (**permalink**) 07-26-2004, 10:19 PM

Okay I'd like to go back and reserve my judgement until a later date. I went on a first date last night with a Nigerian and it was very nice, good conversation, he's funny, intelligent, etc. SUPER CUTE. But I can't go by one date. So will keep you posted on my opinion.

windypace · #5 (**permalink**) 07-24-2005, 07:01 AM

I've dated them all.....From Jamaica, Belize, Trinidad, Africa, Nigeria, Thailand, Scotland, Pakistan, India, Dominican Republic, Mexico, China, Japan, etc... the list goes on forever....

Sometimes there is a problem; sometimes not. It depends on the man and on you.

Jomo's girl · #6 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by JamCan

Okay I'd like to go back and reserve my judgement until a later date. I went on a first date last night with a Nigerian and it was very nice, good conversation, he's funny, intelligent, etc. SUPER CUTE. But I can't go by one date. So will keep you posted on my opinion.

Did he turn out to be rude in the end, JC?????

JamCan · #7 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 09:50 AM

Nope. He turned out to be one of the nicest, most educated, successful men I've ever met. Only his problem is that he just came out of a 6 year relationship with a child involved so wasn't ready for any kind of relationship. We dated about 6 months and parted on good terms. He's a friend of my friend's husband so we still bump into each other sometimes. Very great person.

Jomo's girl · #8 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 10:04 AM

Why is it you let the nice one's get away????????

JamCan · #9 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 10:07 AM

Woman I just told you!!!! HE didn't want to be in a relationship! It wasn't me. Damn if I had scored him that woulda been the ONE I was proud of. LOL.
But after 6 months and no indication of moving any further I had to be productive and get out of a rut.

And I already have a complex about losing the good ones....don't need that rubbed in my face!! LOL

Jomo's girl · #10 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 10:09 AM

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Originally Posted by JamCan

Woman I just told you!!!! HE didn't want to be in a relationship! It wasn't me. Damn if I had scored him that woulda been the ONE I was proud of. LOL.
But after 6 months and no indication of moving any further I had to be productive and get out of a rut.

And I already have a complex about losing the good ones....don't need that rubbed in my face!! LOL

Just teasing you girl.

Whatever happened to him? Did he get into a relationship? Marry?

JamCan · #11 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 10:13 AM

As far as I know he still owns the same house, he also owns a business and works contract for another company too. I know he was dating some Trini gyal for a while because I met her and we hit it off. LOL. But I don't know now, its been a while since I heard anything.

6_Dimples · #12 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 07:03 PM

I think intercultural relationships are a great way to learn about someone's culture. Not on just some political level, but also, personally.
You know how we can say in general, Jamaican men like to have rough sex, but women love it?
It's true, but it's a great chance to know more about the person AS a person and in-depth.

Jomo's girl · #13 (**permalink**) 01-16-2007, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by sexyfigure

I think intercultural relationships are a great way to learn about someone's culture. Not on just some political level, but also, personally.
You know how we can say in general, Jamaican men like to have rough sex, but women love it?
It's true, but it's a great chance to know more about the person AS a person and in-depth.

Too much of a blanket statement, Sexy. JA men, like all men, are all different. Not all are into rough sex.

Urban_DK · #14 (**permalink**) 01-16-2007, 10:04 AM

Yeah, I agree. It isn't fair to ANY group to make blanket statements. One of the best things we can do in life is try hard not to ever do it. It is hard, but worth the work. Not all white girls have flat asses and no lips, not all Germans are pushy, not all Jamaicans are late, etc, etc... even making jokes can just perpetuate these stereotypes. Even when it is something positive (potentially like 'size') it's still not very fair.

Shaz · #15 (**permalink**) 01-16-2007, 10:24 AM

I think dats what SF was tryna say urb...

dat intercultural relationships can help fi dispel some a de generalisations bout a specific culture/race..by getting to know it better.

if dat was de case..den mi agree wid har.

if it wasnt what she meant...sorry SF, an i'll juss go back in mi cage until its dinna time.