Are women totally ignorant of the fact that their Husband/B'friend might be cheating - Page 2 - Jamaica Talk

Alex4Ja · #16 (**permalink**) 05-21-2007, 08:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Honey_B

I guess by the way i worded the post the real question was not answered and that's the question that titles the thread.

HB,
Dont worry about it, Hon.
Such is the life of our debates online.

No sweat...misunderstanding is all part and parcel of Internet communications.

We still enjoy talking.

Peace.

Honey_B · #17 (**permalink**) 05-21-2007, 08:27 PM

Johnny127 i thoroughly enjoyed your views on the matter. I am in agreement with the majority of what you said.

windypace · #18 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 03:17 AM

In answer to the question that titles this thread...

No, women are not ignorant of their man cheating... they usually know deep down inside and just choose to put on those rose colored glasses...

as for your questions...

I have better things to do then worry about all that BS...

If I notice all that stuff about him then I am obsessive about him and need to seek psychological assistance immediately.

Jomo's girl · #19 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 09:54 AM

I think men and women both turn a blind eye to cheating. No one wants to contemplate the thought that the person they love is somehow not happy with them and needs to find outside stimuli.

babyloc · #20 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Honey_B

I was planning on waiting for a while and see everyone’s takes on the situation before adding my two cents to the topic.

While posting in on another similar topic I remembered a call in program on the radio that gave rise to these questions. The program was dedicated to women who suspected their mates were cheating or who have caught them in the act.

Listening for the first time I found it quite hilarious with some of the things women were saying that gave rise to their suspicion that their mates were being unfaithful. The funniest one to me was the one about the Barbershop. However, after laughing my belly full all the women who eventually found out that their mates were being unfaithful experience one or more of what I have highlighted. (They were more I forgot the majority of them)

I do not consider myself a suspicious individual on any count. However a woman would have to be dense to notice all these signs in her man and not become somewhat concern. As a matter of fact I would say she would be plain ignorant. Most women who are surprise by her mate’s (and men and by their women) can not honestly say they did not see something in their mates behaviour that was a bit odd.

Johnny127 I know they are some unreasonable women out there that if a pin drop that’s an indication that their man must be doing something. Due to this they make the man’s life a living hell with accusation, when the poor man is trying his best to be on the up and up. Those women would be place in the paranoid pile. However, if these things are happening on the legit, I would have to say some dirt is being dished. And please tell me Johnny127, witch person after sitting their mates down and asking a pertinent question like “are you being faithful” will hear the truth (if they are not being faithful)? If you are one of those guys then my hat’s off to you.

I do agree with you on not jumping to conclusion and not involving the girlfriends. However, jumping to conclusion would be if these things happen on a one off basis, not if it is happening on a continuous basis.

EXACTLY!!!!

babyloc · #21 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 10:04 AM

In answert o your thread, i can say that some women are ignorant to what their men are doing cuz they choose to live in a fairly world...MOST women are not ignorat but simply (for whatever reason) turn a blind eye or simply ignore and play VICTIM

im not surprised by some of the answers and it just confirms what i have heard bout certatin ones and their situations and it brings thing to light why certian things have happend to them

Jomo's girl · #22 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by babyloc

In answert o your thread, i can say that some women are ignorant to what their men are doing cuz they choose to live in a fairly world...MOST women are not ignorat but simply (for whatever reason) turn a blind eye or simply ignore and play VICTIM

im not surprised by some of the answers and it just confirms what i have heard bout certatin ones and their situations and it brings thing to light why certian things have happend to them

By the time the things she mentioned at the start of this thread come to light, the man has already cheated. IMO, that is too late. If I found out, he would be gone in a heartbeat.

So, how do you ensure he won't do this things? You can't. Either your relationship is secure and monogamous or it isn't.

babyloc · #23 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Jomo's girl

By the time the things she mentioned at the start of this thread come to light, the man has already cheated. IMO, that is too late. If I found out, he would be gone in a heartbeat.

So, how do you ensure he won't do this things? You can't. Either your relationship is secure and monogamous or it isn't.

but according to you ...the lady is being parnoid and the man is simply "cheating on his diet"...

so what you talk bout?

you cant ensure that your man wont cheat...im sure you know this so what are you really asking me?

babyloc · #24 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Jomo's girl

By the time the things she mentioned at the start of this thread come to light, the man has already cheated. IMO, that is too late. If I found out, he would be gone in a heartbeat.

So, how do you ensure he won't do this things? You can't. Either your relationship is secure and monogamous or it isn't.

Almost all relationships are secure and monogomaous.....(at first)..but yet moret han half end in divorce...

i dont get your point...

Jomo's girl · #25 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by babyloc

but according to you ...the lady is being parnoid and the man is simply "cheating on his diet"...

so what you talk bout?

you cant ensure that your man wont cheat...im sure you know this so what are you really asking me?

I think people are far too paranoid in relationships. I've seen women pick apart their men when they were doing nothing wrong. Way too many paranoid people out there. Such lack of trust makes me wonder why they are even in relationships in the first place.

Jomo's girl · #26 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by babyloc

Almost all relationships are secure and monogomaous.....(at first)..but yet moret han half end in divorce...

i dont get your point...

Not all the divorces are the product of a cheating spouse.

Alex4Ja · #27 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Jomo's girl

I think people are far too paranoid in relationships. I've seen women pick apart their men when they were doing nothing wrong. Way too many paranoid people out there. Such lack of trust makes me wonder why they are even in relationships in the first place.

Hence my original point.

No one truly puts on rose-colored glasses in any relationship...(Sorry, I dont buy that), but many will see the ovious and ignore it, opting to gving their mate the benefit of the doubt.

If you see legitimate reasons, then follow up, if not...Leave it alone.
Unless your relationship was built on such, you should not try to manage it on a hunch.

If you are in a relationship where you have to know EVERYTHING about your partner, ALL THE TIME, then you dont have a partner, you have a child.

True trust is absolute.

Women expend far too much Time and Energy trying to figure out whether their man is cheating on them.
The funny thing is...Most of those men who ARE chaeting , are never found out...At least not very early anyway.

Jomo's girl · #28 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnny127

Hence my original point.

No one truly puts on rose-colored glasses in any relationship...(Sorry, I dont buy that), but many will see the ovious and ignore it, opting to gving their mate the benefit of the doubt.

If you see legitimate reasons, then follow up, if not...Leave it alone.
Unless your relationship was built on such, you should not try to manage it on a hunch.

If you are in a relationship where you have to know EVERYTHING about your partner, ALL THE TIME, then you dont have a partner, you have a child.

True trust is absolute.

Women expend far too much Time and Energy trying to figure out whether their man is cheating on them.
The funny thing is...Most of those men who ARE chaeting , are never found out...At least now very early anyway.

It's been a while since we completely agreed on anything, Alex. I am with you on this one.

Alex4Ja · #29 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 01:23 PM

Ladies!!!

Stop spending so much time pondering, snooping and accusing your man of cheating.
Cause if he is, your constant accusation and confrontation will only aid him in building a better mousetrap.

If you know what I mean.

Alex4Ja · #30 (**permalink**) 05-22-2007, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Jomo's girl

It's been a while since we completely agreed on anything, Alex. I am with you on this one.

Yeah, Babeeee.