Yeah Rite!

A Faas oono faaas.

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Damn, Alex.....you just made me tear up. I'm so sorry.

I have never seen it as harmless. With mutual agreement, like you said, whatever happens happens and is none of anyone else's business. But, when one party is being deceived, I find it to be horrifying.

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Well, JG as you know, I have been seen as the bad guy for "lashing out" against these 'games' as well as for being critical of these women who, after only a visit lasting a couple of days to a week or two, come back with glorious tales of romance and promise of commitment to their new "Jamaican man".
Most of these tales belong only in some sea-faring movies starring Errol Flynn or Burt Lancaster.

It sall good when they come back and spew out their 'romance travel reports".
But I cant help but flinch whenever they referred to the men as their 'Boyfriend" or "Future husbands".
Naaaw!
Most of those relationships are as long lasting and durable as microwave popcorns.


You try to caution people about such but you only endup being cussed out in the end.

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BTW:
Didnt mean to cause a tear.
This is the first time that i am actually relating.
I have many true stories that reeks of the true realities of those affairs.
But I will keep them to myself.

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I read some of it to Jomo when he just called me. I told him how your story touched me today. I would be open to hearing more if you want to share, Alex, either on here or via PM.

Also, I have always appreciated your knowledge and sharing. Some of it may have come out as rather harsh without any real reason for your harshness. It does help to hear the reasoning behind such. It may still not change the persception on my own relationship; but it does make me pause and think. I think all people are fools if they do not do so every once in a while.

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You know, there are not many persons who think that there are guys who will give guidance on these things. We are usually and almost always seen as everybody else and its only over time you hear people say, ohh he was not so bad after all.

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Thats cool.

I dont claim to know about every single circumstances. But in any situation, when you hav ehad experiences that hits close to home on several occasions, you can not help but have a narrow view on such.

Though my comments may at times seem derisive my motives are often well-intentioned.
I guess I am just not a good a communicator, after all.

Thanks for the warm response.

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I know.
Often times, we as men are all clumped up in one bad core.

In the past, I have heard it ooh so often: "You Jamaican men? NO Way! You guys are all con-artist! I had a friend who was seeing this Jamaican guy right?, and..."

Well, I am sure you have heard that yourself.

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[quote=Jomo's girl;385290] expectations may be heightened. With a vacation romance, you are in some fantasy world of beauty, freedom, and away from your normal surroundings. People tend to cater to your wants and needs more. Add some sun, sea, and beautiful men.......I agree!!.....I am also mindful that the said beautiful (presumably single) man will be left in that same paradise and comming into contact with many women who may see in him the same qualities that I did.....Is it realistic to expect that someone I hardly know would in those circumstances be keeping himself for me and me alone til my next visit in 6 months time?.......I think not

The men get what they want financially and continue their lives otherwise.............A common assumption that gets my goat.

A long distance relationship takes a whole lot of work and a lot of time to develop........Agree!........

I think that beautiful people everywhere, ..........Certainly there are and many go into these relationships knowing full well that the person is not single

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Well my answer to your specific statement 1stP is that no it it isnt obvious that a man is already married and with children if he doesnt have a ring or admit that he is, how are you supposed to know.......I guess if your cynical you could assume eveyone is a liar until proven otherwise, unfortunately for me I tend to believe most people are truthful until I have a reason to believe otherwise.

Yep.....Spill it 1stP.

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[quote=1stParadigm;385361]This part, you took out of context in this instance, 1stP.

What I meant in my post was that if the two people are in the same frame of mind and know exactly why she is coming to visit and what is happening, then it's cool.

I have a friend in JA, Kevan, who does exactly this. A Canadian girl comes to visit him a few times a year. She sends him money periodically. He's built on to his house with her money so she can stay with him when she comes. He has a car. He has nice things. She knows when she comes to visit, he will be there for her and she will be there to see him. He said it's been going on for about 10 years now. I don't condone it. I don't even like it. But, it's how it is for them. As long as they both know what is going on is what I was trying to get across.

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