You know, I will never settle with a man with an open mindset on those kind of "excuses".
Like a really good friend of mine, her hubby is really a dog, I mean, he paints every town red and when he gets caught redhanded (in the bed they share) his always response to that he is a man and men are dogs, and beg for forgivness...then my shoulder becomes the burden to bear her problems. Aye sah. I will NEVER settle knowingly for that at all.
Well as far as your frined is concerned, if she knows that she has a dog and whenevr it bits her she runs to you, then you need to either tell her to wake up or stop running to you for "band-aids",.
On the other point, it was not an excuse; rather a fact.
Its very easy for a man to find a man to find woman than for a woman to find a man, simply because of what they want form the man or woman.
Most of the time, a man only wants "some", for a time; a woman wants it all, for all times.
Based on that, the mans "wants" is short-term and can easily be satiffied. The woman...well, you know how it is.
__________________ "In this great future, you can't forget your past. " Bob Marley (1945 - 1981)
This has nothing to do with the man being Jamaican. Stalkers exist in all races. Plenty women stalkers out there too.
Well, I wasn't referring to stalkers, actually.
Just men who drops out of sight after a relationship, but only "drops" back in long enough to remind the woman of how wonderful she is/was and how much he still often thinks about her.
Some such men are genuine in their "sincere memories" and only want to keep in touch.
While others are like past salesmen...dropping in occassinally, hoping for another opportunity for a quick "sale".
__________________ "In this great future, you can't forget your past. " Bob Marley (1945 - 1981)
Pick your memory and tell me how many news you've seen on tv or heard on radio of female stalkers taking their stalking an inch further to something like killing or kidnapping.
In that respect... Oh yeah!
They are MANY female stalkers around.
Pleeeze! You probably wont admit it but, How many of you women would be willing to admit finding an excuse to drive past your significant other's (or ex's) house, job or favorite spot, just to see who he is with or what he is doing?
I have known of many a women who get out of bed in the wee hours of the morning, leaving their babies in bed and snuck across town just to drive past their SO's house to see who's car is parked there.
Now if that ain't stalking then what is?
__________________ "In this great future, you can't forget your past. " Bob Marley (1945 - 1981)
NOOOO.. I didnt mean stalking... just keepin a woman on a line we call it.. yu know.. check in with her etc...
It's all about how you react to that GG. I have ex-BF's who I talk to a few times a year. We are friends now. I have an ex-JA BF who continues to call and try and woo me. I'm having none of that and he knows it. None of these have any effect on my emotions cause I am not in one of those emotionally unstable places. I'm over them. So, their calls are friendly. I care about them enough to know what is going on with them; but not that it effects me any other way. If I were still hooked on anyone and then continued to call and I didn't want them to, I would stop taking their calls. You have a choice in this.
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Life's just a crazy ride on a run away train
You can't go back for what you've missed
So make it count, hold on tight find a way to make it right
You only get one trip
So make it good, make it last 'cause it all flies by so fast
You only get one trip
Pleeeze! You probably wont admit it but, How many of you women would be willing to admit finding an excuse to drive past your significant other's (or ex's) house, job or favorite spot, just to see who he is with or what he is doing?
I have known of many a women who get out of bed in the wee hours of the morning, leaving their babies in bed and snuck across town just to drive past their SO's house to see who's car is parked there.
Now if that ain't stalking then what is?
Azzness!
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Your best can be someone else's worse!
Well as far as your frined is concerned, if she knows that she has a dog and whenevr it bits her she runs to you, then you need to either tell her to wake up or stop running to you for "band-aids",.
On the other point, it was not an excuse; rather a fact.
Its very easy for a man to find a man to find woman than for a woman to find a man, simply because of what they want form the man or woman.
Most of the time, a man only wants "some", for a time; a woman wants it all, for all times.
Based on that, the mans "wants" is short-term and can easily be satiffied. The woman...well, you know how it is.
Dogish behavior.
But my friend is a really great person despite her blindness. I leave her to see how bad he is for her (hope she sees soon) as she seems not to hear when I tell her. I stop telling her how bad he is for her a long time now, and is just being there as a shoulder, as I know what it is to love someone.
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Your best can be someone else's worse!
NOOOO.. I didnt mean stalking... just keepin a woman on a line we call it.. yu know.. check in with her etc...
i dont know if this is a jamican man thing or just a man thing....
almost everyone of the men from my past still call me from time to time...one still call me after more than 15 years...i think it cuz i formed tru frnedship with my love intrests and am never bitter when its time to move on and can remain freindly and can still call on for anyting, anytime...some have enven gotten married and i have met dem wife...
Pleeeze! You probably wont admit it but, How many of you women would be willing to admit finding an excuse to drive past your significant other's (or ex's) house, job or favorite spot, just to see who he is with or what he is doing?
I have known of many a women who get out of bed in the wee hours of the morning, leaving their babies in bed and snuck across town just to drive past their SO's house to see who's car is parked there.
Now if that ain't stalking then what is?
NEVA taht...i have a girlfrend that do this and i ask her "girl where ur head? NOT GOOD!!!..
Because so many women settle for them. They have no incentive to improve.
For example:
The reason so many men pressure women for sex before marriage is because they are pretty certain that the women will give in. If the they women they pressure won't give in, some other woman will. They don't need to change their attitude (in their view), they just need to change their target. If more women put up more resistance and demanded better treatment, men would be forced to improve.
It is better to ask why so many women settle for men that are bad for them.
So true. If you allow a man to treat you a certain where that you don't approve of. Chances are, he'll continue treating you this way.
You know, I will never settle with a man with an open mindset on those kind of "excuses".
Like a really good friend of mine, her hubby is really a dog, I mean, he paints every town red and when he gets caught redhanded (in the bed they share) his always response to that he is a man and men are dogs, and beg for forgivness...then my shoulder becomes the burden to bear her problems. Aye sah. I will NEVER settle knowingly for that at all.
And this is exactly what Bounty X was talking about.
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If more women put up more resistance and demanded better treatment, men would be forced to improve.
It is better to ask why so many women settle for men that are bad for them.
It's unfortunate and sad that your friend has a husband that blantantly disrespects her, but needs to do something ablout it.
Well I should just say I just love black men period (of course I'm black) but I love everything about them no matter where they're from. I just love them from head to toe.
Now as far as Jamaican men, never dated one. But I'm quite sure they are some great ones out there.
"In this great future, you can't forget your past. " Bob Marley (1945 - 1981)
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