LET'S DO IT AGAIN...

We are all too familiar with the statement "Forgive and Forget.
It rolls off the tongue so easily, doesn't it?
But as we know all to well, making that a reality is not an easy feat.

We often tell ourselves that we need to forgive in order to move on. We visualize the necesity of this based on the apparent pain that it causes us to hold on to the hurt versus the hoped relief that letting go, will bring us.

But when enveloped in the pain, is it human to roll back the pages of the "offense" over and over again in our minds? And with each "replay" does it bring on the deep seated anguish once again?

So, can we ever truly forgive and forget?

Certainly the process is much easier when the person who has hurt you is no longer in your life or your immediate presence.
But how do you deal with it when you must still see that person every day, or when you still must live with them, or worst...when you WANT to continue to be with them?

We can philosophise until the cows come home, but can we truly embrace that person and say with a smile "I forgive you".?

How do we avoid the mental anguish from re-entering our minds over and over and over again?

Truly....Can we forgive and forget?

And if so, how do we?

Depending on the offense, I could forgive; but never forget....Would probably just move on.

And, yes, I may at times play it over and over again in my mind. I do it all the time. Helps me remember how lucky I am today and to never repeat the particular history.

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If you've never stared off in the distance, then your life is a shame...

...if that's a problem you could just say oublier et pardonner instead.

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At my age, I keep forgetting what it is I'm supposed to forgive...

I cant answer this right now

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Nona Manis.. finding out where I belong

O.A. I was meant 2 luv u..

I can/will and have forgiven but forget, never.........as I believe your experiences in life, (good and bad), should be taken as lessons and by forgetting……… you loose the lesson.

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Just because nobody complains doesn't mean all parachutes are perfect.

yes... but if I forgot, would you forgive me?

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you...........hell yes!!!! **smile**

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Just because nobody complains doesn't mean all parachutes are perfect.

And if I forgive, would you forget me?

Forgive yes but why forget?

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Okay I was mad before... I forgive.. just because you sound so sexy

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Nona Manis.. finding out where I belong

O.A. I was meant 2 luv u..

Depends on what it is...


And most often... even if people CAN forgive... they NEVER forget....

forgetting is stupid in my opinion.... you never forget lessons learned.

and When someone betrays you enough to need forgiving... usually it is a lesson worth learning.

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"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies"

Proverbs 31; 10

mmm tough question and it surely blows away all the 'humble' threads on this website. im with nearly everyone so far on that forgetting is impossible. but forgiving is very hard without forgetting so im not sure either can happen. we need to remember what action is being forgiven or forgotten and im presuming this all revolves around trust. so when someone breaks your trust yeh you can accept it and continue the relationship whether its friends, lovers, family but forgiving and forgetting would mean completely trusting again unconditionally. i dont think it possible for anyone once a trust had been broken.

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Nona Manis.. finding out where I belong

O.A. I was meant 2 luv u..

The objective is not to Forget.
No one ever does.
It only sounds nice when you say it.

Sometimes it IS good NOT to forget, because in remembering, it serves as a meter in determining if you ever did truly forgive.

And if you still feel the same way when you do, then you truly haven't forgiven.

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