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Dilema...
If you're in love with someone, and you don't think the feeling is mutual what do you do? You know the person has love for you, but you also sense that they're not planning on settling down any time soon. Do you...
1. Accept it, stay in the relationship knowing that you love the person, work toward your life goals, and hope that one day the person might want to settle down....
2. Keep eyes and mind open for another person who does want to settle down, while still maintaining your current relationship...
3. Break up with the person even though you know it's going to hurt. Move on and hope you meet the right person...
#3!..... But first how long has this relationship been going on? Second, there needs to be an open discussion an honest discussion about how both parties feel. Third when you get your answer and if it's not what you want to hear ie he don't "love" you the way you want and need to be loved than I would go with door #3!! Maybe the love you are looking for is also out there searching foryou but your souls haven't found each other yet!
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Re: Dilema...
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#3!..... But first how long has this relationship been going on? Second, there needs to be an open discussion an honest discussion about how both parties feel. Third when you get your answer and if it's not what you want to hear ie he don't "love" you the way you want and need to be loved than I would go with door #3!! Maybe the love you are looking for is also out there searching foryou but your souls haven't found each other yet!
hope that helps
He's not big on discussions, and I kind of agree with you, but at the same time there's always that hope that eveything will be all good in the end you know? It's over a year that we're together... I was with my ex for 4 years, but ending itr wasn't hard because although I had love for him I wasn't IN LOVE with him.. see it? This one has me trippin' for real.
Don't get it twisted though I'm still working on my future and my life, but I guess now that I'm with him I get all of the FINE youts and even guys in their 30's (I'm 22) trying to talk to me, but I guess I'm too loyal to start shopping around.
My friend tells me I should keep a couple of back-up buddies... but I'm not like that... I don't know, maybe # 3 is the most logical way to go.
Why do us women always have to wait around until they are ready to love us the way we want and need to be loved????????? Then again, if he is as young as you are then maybe he is not ready you know! Men take a longer time to mature than us women. I don't think a man is ready for marriage until about mid 30's.
It's all up to you hon, you're the one in the relationship, I'm just on the outside looking in! Again if it were me door #3 would be the answer!
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Re: Dilema...
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Originally Posted by Rayof_Sunlight
Bashment girl I have been in that same dilema.. I was in love in with man he did not love me back, so I acpet it. We were in a relationship for 2 years we even live together and he never once tell me that he love me. Ask him if he will love me and he said he don't know if he will love. I still didn't leave after that. I stay with him some more hoping that one day he will change his mind. So I got tired of waiting I couldn't do it anymore I got up and left.. Call me crazy but I am going to call him now and ask him why he never love me...
Well I'm sorry to hear that RAY... but it's not the same situation. He's told me he loves me, and I know he does have love for me... I was saying I don't feel like he's in love with me the same way that I am with him. Like for me, even though I'm 22 I could stop with him. I don't feel that from him.
As a rule of thumb I say if you have to ask a man if he loves you, the answer is probably NO. If he doesn't say it all the time, you'd at least feel it through his actions
If I were you I wouldn't call your ex-man and ask him why he never loved you, it's irrelavant now, even if you still love him. You walked away because you didn't get what you needed from a relationship, leave it at that. Don't cause youself anymore pain because if you ask him why he didn't love you he might just answer you and it maybe something you don't need to hear at this point in your life.
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Re: Dilema...
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I am sorry bashment I miss your read your thread
That's cool, I just hope you're OK. Don't let that guy perplex your tranquility girl!!! Move forward, there's a Mr.Right out there for you, so I hope you're not hung up on this dude.
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