Hi ladies.....I had to leave suddenly earlier but I am back now ok.

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Well when I talk to him on the phone a lot of times I dont understand what he says. But once i am around him im good. Sometimes he say something like a phrase or term that I am not familiar with but then I just ask him what that means. Soemtimes I usse words hes not familiar with and he asks me same way.
Funny I just spoke to him. Said that its because we are apart that I feel that way and I said no I felt like that when I was there. I put it on the table and he said hes been through a lot. Just wants to make sure thi sis right. He asked why I think he doesnt care. I told him I do think you care but that doesnt mean you want to be with me. Of course we got cut off. But I am glad I told him how I feel. How it hurts me the things he does and not being able to talk to him. I feel better if nothing but to have told him how I feel.

Yay Lucky!!!!!!!

Ok i had to go read over what you wrote (well scanned it over really since I read it this morning). Firstly I must say that Long Distance Relationship can bring frustration and misunderstanding on some things being that you are not able to read the other persons body language and it really takes a lot at first to get to know the person and all dat. With your situation I find it odd that he seemed soo open on the phone initially and then started getting closed as your visits started getting more frequent.

Communication is key and even more harder in situations like this. Good thing I got choices in which medium to use and also save money in the process. But I see where care and concern are dragging in this relationship on his part. In trying to get to know what you really feel.

Was never easy for me....oohhh no DG can tell you dat. We have been talking a long time and we just over time got closer. Helping each other through and stuff like dat. Had several tests of faith since we started talking too but I believe there is something in our union. Something great and I dont ever want to loose dat.

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I dont believe in rushing things along, you might just miss someting. Therefore I try to just let each day speak for itself. My greatest lesson.....Trust.


Yep...This is something where in the begining i used to wonder ok what is going while I am here. What is she doing......but no...that was maybe the first couple weeks. Right now I try everyday to be there as if I was actualy there. Its called Care and Concern.......Those two drive other things into the union....it can bring in fantasies, career, sexuality, entertainment....

Now do you see that coming from your Jamaican man side of things? Is this constant? How often does he get upset? and for what?

Yes there are some that will present 2 faces. One to you and another to the rest of the world. Guess what your female instinct WILL RECOGNISE DAT!!!! I never expect it to be all rosey or full of sunshine. It takes guts to make it work and I believe the guy has to try a little more harder than the girl to make it work (give u my reason later).

I do believe though that this is hiding somethings that are very important and needs to be said. How hard is it to get to St. Mary from Trelawny.....I am confused!.. Especialy for your Mother. My mom is very important to me and even if i have to beg a ride I am going to look for her.

Jamcan and Hotteach will tell you about gut instincts and it works right guys? Jomo I lift my hat off to yaaa.....really! You inspire me soooo much.


soo after this whole crap I wrote straight from mind you might be confused. any questions?

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Confused about what you said no. lol
Thank you Lucky for your thoughts. He told me his mother is very feisty and for quite some time he kept saying there is a lot to understand about my mother even before meeting her came up.
But bottom line is I cant make excuses and I wont. My goal is to proceed with caution and like I told him tonight when he asked when I was coming back, I dont know! Just taking time and take it slow.

ok cool, you are right take your time....For the most part most persons dont really meet the parents till they are sure of whats happening anyways. But for you to decide if she is feisty.......

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Like I said I have a friend that she will not even tell her mother about any guy she is dating. Her mother is a very old fashioned Jamaican and very religious. So she always said her mother will not meet orknow of any guy until he is the one she is going to marry. When I found her her current boyfriend met her mom I knew that meant they were serious.

Missty, after reading and re-reading, I think you need more time before you make any decisions. Seriously, take one day at a time. If that day does not go well, don't call him for a while. And, if he calls, don't answer. I have found if things are not right and you sit back and think on them, you will know which way to go. I would not make any rash decisions during those times, especially if you have a really bad day. Maybe visit again and again. Until you feel comfortable with your decisions. Again, don't make any rash decisions if you are having these wonderful trips either. It is the happy medium of the good and bad time that makes a relationship.

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Hey ladies, I want to hear someone's story end happy! Hence my signature.[/quote]

Lady, read any one of my posts and you will see I adore my Jamaican husband. He is the most beautiful person I have ever met, inside and out.

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I agree with Lucky on this part - we had no vehicle for a long time and went from St Ann to Albert Town many times to visit Ruperts grandmother and sister. I think its just an excuse.
The Jamaicans I know from our area are very resourceful and finding a ride somewhere is the least of it.
I met Ruperts mother the second time I went to JA, and stayed at their house(thats where he lived), and eventually when I decided not to come back to Canada we lived there for about a year(until we were married).

Just go with your gut instinct like i said before and so did JG, it is usually right we just need to listen to it.

Yah, I keep thinking of this not meeting his mother issue. I am sure you even argued for paying for a taxi to go there, right? There are ways. They may be a little on the pricy side; but there are always ways. And, yes, I know of times when Jomo and his friends wrangled a car for the day or a ride with a friend to get to where we were going.

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Actually I never pushed the issue of meeting his mom. When I was there last time we were gonna go but then the whole thing went down with the rental. We did plan it out one day with the driver to go and how much it would cost and when I heard the price I wasnt too excited about it! So see what happens when you think about things. You realize the part you play in it as well. I talked to him last night and a good friend of mine who pretty much has been the only positive one about this situation. I feel comfortable like you said JG just taking it slow and not making any quick decisions. People do things in ways we dont understand and thats what getting to know someone is about. Its hard because there are things I wonder about but in my gut I believe he cares. Whether that will work out in a relationship I dont know and I told him that. BUt hey while I make sure to keep my feet on solid ground why not enjoy the ride!!!!!

Yep, slow and steady, no need to rush into anything.