That is so right, sometime we rationalize and try to give reasons why it is not so, when infact it is exactly what we think or feel.

Yep that is my birthday.
Thank you for the offer but its okay. Im not on a mission to try to bring stuff to the surface to either confirm or deny. My thinking is I care about him a lot and felt he did the same. Caring about someone is a good thing. If you cant appreciate that and do right then your not the one for me. It hurts a lot trust me, but I have learned dragging it on sucks bad!!! lol I rather just go with what I have now. I just have a feeling hes not going to go easy.lol Why is that?? If Im with someone and I am not happy I tell them look im not happy. We can work on it or end it. They say lets work on it. Then its great for a week and bam right back to the old stuff. Then I leave. But then they are surprised, why?????

Getting to really know someone and trust them is a long hard process. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't. Letting go is sometimes the hardest part. You wonder if you are making the right decision. You wonder if there is anyone out there better for you. Time is the only way to tell. If you pull back just a bit, you may find all your answers in the way the situation plays itself out.

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I have someone still calling me (last Sunday in fact) after not really putting any effort at all into even calling the guy after almost 2 years. He must now realize the mistake he made in our relationship. I felt guilty for a long time for not putting any effort into it. Sometimes it was all I could do not to call him. But, over that time, he showed his true colors. Or, at least, I saw them. My friends had been telling me long before that how he really was.

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Your right JG you are so right. Im excited because I am going to NY to spend time with my family and it will really take my mind off of things.

good going misty, nice to see ur beter

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What, Lucky? Decided not to pipe in? I am still interested in seeing a guy's point of view.

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Yea Lucky whats up with that!!!!
Can I also say that Im a little upset because my last trip I met a cutie and I threw his number away!!!! I could have been calling him right now!!!!!! lolololol
just joking but I am mad I threw the number out!!

You are a glutton for phone bills, aren't you Missty?

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nah I still have credit on my Digicel phoneI could use up!!!! Even if its I dont know 2 bucks a minute!!!! lol

Seems to be a lot of us dating guys from St. Mary's! LOL.

In my case, I didn't put up with the mixed signals for 6 years. Actually, we had no contact for 6 years. The mixed signals showed up quickly when we reunited -- only a couple of months. I like to make mountains out of molehills too -- so I've been a bit reluctant to form any real opinion about things . . . but the hair's up on the back of my neck! I've always been taught to pay attention to that hair -- if it's up . . . there's usually a reason for it. It's hard to make a decision to "walk away" . . . I know -- I'm there -- but we have to protect ourselves and do what we feel is right -- no matter how difficult that is. Missty, you're a strong, beautiful woman. I'm certain you'll make the right choice for you where this guy is concerned. Be thankful for the smiles he gave you and appreciate the journey you've made. Next journey -- KEEP the hotties' phone number!

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I HATE mixed signals!! Thats why I stopped talkign to him before. I didnt want to give him mixed signals. Not that it was the right thing to do. But dag if you dont want to be bothered with someone just leave them alone. What is the purpose of stringing someone along????

Let me just say a few things. Again JA live a different life then we do, harder - and it's hard for us to comprehend, so don't try to figure that out. All men give mixed signals, so do us woman. You said in one of your post, you get bored after several months. That's kind-of the same as unwilling to have a long term commitment.

Money and things come in time and if he can't offer you that, maybe one day he will. I dated an American man, a doctor, who was able to give me the life that I'm use to and better, he wanted me to move to another state so he could open a new practice, but I didn't move fast enough. He was arragant and rude.... Anyway it ended hard. It took me weeks to get out the bed, yet alone get over the fact that it was over. I'm just saying this to say that if you love someone and they love you back, it's worth trying.

Still be careful - it's like any interracial relationship, there will always be difference in culture and things neither one of you will totally understand about the other. It's good that you didn't move, he's right it's not that easy. I think the phone thing is universal there, even when I visit JA my roaming takes on a whole new thang! Even almost got left behind because my girls couldn't reach me.

I'm no longer bitter about the doctor, but I refuse to allow a man to treat me less than a queen. My new JA man can't afford to give me anything, (and I ain't rich either) but what he can and gives me is priceless. I'm just enjoying the moment, without worrying about tomorrow or the past. BUT WHEN I GET QUIET TIME AND DWELL ON THIS DAY AND MY PRESENT CIRCUMSTANCES - it takes my breath away. I don't want this feeling to end. But if it does, I'll have a beautiful true story, not a fair tale to tell my grand kids.

Hey ladies, I want to hear someone's story end happy! Hence my signature.

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Well I will admit I have commitment issues and it scares me. But it scares me because I am the all or nothing type of person. And if I say Im givin gyou my all then for sure its ture and I got your back. Im scared of someone taking advantage of the situation.

As for your statement on an interracial relationship , do you actually mean culture wise? Because hes Jamaican and Im American but we are both black. I am not Jamaican but I am very familiar with the culture and very intuned to it. I mean its different being born and raised in JA then men I have dated that are born here. But they still have the strong values and culture.

And yes I believe if two people love each other its worth trying. I dont want to give up. I am willing to slow down and take time because if its meant to be then it will be. But if we cant communicate with each other if I feel like I dont understand whats going on because I cant talk to him, then its hard and its hurts. I am cant sit around being hurt for what I hope will be.

Gurl - let me mix it up some. Make you smile a minute. I'm divorced and just like you I'M ALL OR NOTHING! But when someone is talking to serious, I get distracted like it's a disease and I want to grow old with one person. How can that happen if it scares me to go long-term? :0 Makes no sense.

When I said interracial is similar, there are some definite differences! Most of my closest friends are from the islands and you really have to be in-tune with them for women to let you in their circle. You'll notice it eventually, but you will appreciate it the same.

I like what you said, let it happen - don't force it yourself!

By the way when you talk do you understand every word he uses, or do you find yourself asking him to repeat what he said? because the accent can sometimes be sTrOnG.

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