I want your person views on this - can you fall in love just after a few weeks?

How long after you meet someone do you know that you have very strong feelings for them? In the sense that you class your feelingsas:

Being in love

Falling in love

Loving
My friend only know this quy for four weeks and she says she is badly in love with him, she ask me if i think its real or if it is just infatuation but i cant answer her yet thats why i want some views on this.

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One True Original Me Only one year older

You can be infatuated with someone. Love takes time to cultivate. Love isn't just some strong feeling. It is making it through shared experiences, good and bad. I love many people I can't be around all the time.

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We dreamers have our ways
Of facing rainy days
And somehow we survive

Yeah dat was probably infatuation.. But dat in itself can be a very strong feeling.. I tink a lot of times infatuation and love are often confused. Love does tek time.

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Curious that that question should arise now..................

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my friend beleives in Love at first sight. I dont beleive in that.

Its really hard to tell her that its infatuation. I dont want her to start crying again.

She will do anything for the this guy she even go to his apartment and clean for him. I think he might be a player because he is very handsome. no way he doesnt have any woman.

I think that she does have very very strong feelings for him, he dont seem to feel that much towards her. if he does he dont show it.

I dont know what to do do, i really dont want to see her getting hurt.

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One True Original Me Only one year older

Just because he's handsome don't mean he's a player. I'm not a player. But if he doesn't seem to feel the same way about her then maybe she shouldn't show her feelings as much. Here's a trick I always use to get the girl or to see if she really likes me. After showing a lot of liking for a couple weeks, I just stop it completely. If that person really cares, they'll be disturbed by the change. If they don't care, they won't even notice it. Have her try that. It's actually a pretty revealing trick.

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Thanks

that idea seem really good, i think it will work, then she will be able to see for herself as well

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One True Original Me Only one year older

I disagree that love ALWAYS takes a long time to cultivate. A frient of mine knew within a two weeks that the guy she was seeing was who she was going to marry. They were engaged at 3 weeks, living together after a month, married shortly after and they will be celebrating their 20 year anniversary this summer.

Sometimes you just know!

However, in this case, I agree - I would be concerned because he doesn't seem to be feeling the same way (at least from what you have described his actions don't indicate that).

How much can you learn about someone in 2 weeks? You have to know the person in order to actually love them. But we never said that infatuation can not turn into love. Actually I believe that it is the step right before love. But if it worked for them, then more power to them. It happens sometimes, not saying it's common but yeah it's possible. I was real close with my ex-girlfriend right from the start so I can understand being ready to be with someone at an early state.

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On the flip side of that.........how many times have you "just known" and it turned out you were oh so wrong??

I agree D-R. You cannot love someone after a few weeks. Infatuation is what that is. And, we never did say infatuation does not turn into love.

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If you've never stared off in the distance, then your life is a shame...

We dreamers have our ways
Of facing rainy days
And somehow we survive

Its tru that not every guy who is really handsome is a playa....also D-Rock this is a genius Idea..loooove it.......have actually suggested it to my friend who has a BF that is an asshole!

Well, I guess we will just have to agree to disagree.

You can learn a lot about someone in two weeks - if you want to, and if both people are honest with each other! Obviously you aren't going to go through "all the emotions" with them in that time period, but some people love easier and faster than other people.

I think if you love someone you want to be there through good and bad, not that you have to go through good and bad to know if you do love them.

All I am saying is that because you (and maybe the majority of people) don't/can't fall in love in 2 weeks doesn't mean it is the same for everyone.

Yeah, I agree with alot of what's been said. You CAN feel a rush the first time you set eyes on someone, and you can KNOW that they are exactly what YOU are looking for... but you cannot predict compatibility. Once the initial love feelings are reduced in their intoxicating intensity, you find out how much the two of you can work together to complement one another's lifestyles.

Have you never been totally in love with someone, but realized that you weren't meant to be together? You can have perfect love, but be incompatible. The other thing is: how do you EVER know that the other person reciprocates your feelings? You can't... doesn't matter what they say. Only time will allow this to come to light.

The case of the ppl celebrating 20 years... that was luck. They fell in love at first sight AND were compatible. Doesn't mean they knew for sure at the time, even if they think they did. Hindsight is different; they look back now and say "Oh, I knew all along" but there is no formula.

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I'll bet JC could shed some very keen insights in this thread... if the feelings aren't too raw. It might be too soon for her to analyse.

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This is all I am trying to say - there is no formula! It can, and does happen. My Mom came home after a date with my Dad (very early in the relationship) and told her Mom that she was going to marry him - and that was 41 years ago.
And on the flip side, I have known people who have been together for years before getting married, and divorce a few years later.

So I agree - THERE IS NO FORMULA!