If you are in a relationship and you are cheating do you confess or do you let sleeping dogs lie???..................-i mean ..........just because you slept with someone on saturday as a 1 nite stand does it mean that you need to fess up to your woman/man that you did something-i mean surely if it was just a one off that won't happen again it's better not to say anything-just because you cheated on your other half -it doesn't mean that you dont' love them does it.....and if the shoes was on the other foot-and you were being cheated on-would you wanna know if you loved that person to DEATH-would you wanna be visualing that person in the arms of someone else-my personal opinion on cheating is this-........You can take numbers you can date you can sex whoever you want BUT.........don't make find out about it.................

I'm confused.....why are there two threads with the same name?

And as for cheating.....I would never want to be cheated on....well I have been before and it hurts. Whenever I've been cheated on I ALWAYS find out somehow and then I end the relationship. But what's good for the goose is not always good for the gander.....I've been tempted to cheat too, although never followed through with it. And if I did it I sure as hell wouldn't want to confess. But I do believe that I'd be found out one day. Karma has a strange way of rearing its ugly head when you least expect it.
So I know I didn't give you an answer.....do what you think you should do but KNOW that if/when it comes up in the future be prepared to be able to back your story up.

Note: I'm usually single so in my case its rarely called cheating! Its called looking after myself.

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Only ONE way to keep a relationship working - HONESTY.
Lies and deceptions are insidious cancers.
Once they begin, where do they end?
Another promising relationship on the trash heap of experience.
Give what you want to get.

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confessions is a must if you want your relationship to work, but as a man I have come to realize that women are very emotional creatures and telling them a what they want to hear improve a man's chances.......................hmmm (did I just type this)

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Never never tell if you stray. It will only worsen as time goes by and the other person will have lost respect and trust. Best way to alleviate this is not to stray if you are in a truly good relationship.

I agree with not cheating..therefore not having to tell coz there is nothing to confess.

If you really gotta start looking elsewhere then there is something seriously worng in the relationship and the next step is to communicate your feelings.

Not talking to each other honestly is the WORST thing in a relationship...just start by letting your partner know how u are feeling, emotionally, sexually, mentally and see if a compromise can be reached.

By the way...if you drive and cheat in England..AND get caught..this is what could happen to your precious ride. (sorry for the bad language).

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LOL Pooky!!!! I've seen that car before in an email and I thought it was EXCELLENT whoever did it.

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well to be honest if it wasn't intentional that you ended up in bed with another person other than your partner and it happened only once then it would make no sense telling. As a woman JamaicaMiss is giving us brothers the heads up, never tell, just tell the ladies what they need to know.

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should u tell? U mad!

NO!

ps love the smiley face on the windscreen of the car.

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I agree with Oldsalt and Pooky....the only way a relationship works out is being honest. If you've done it one what's stopping you with doing it again and again? If you dont communicate your emotions, needs and wants and you start looking elsewhere there is no reason to have the realsionship anyway. Look at it the other way...wouldnt you prefer to know if your partner cheated on you? Do you prefer to be blind to the reality of a cheating partner? If you know the reality of a situation you can handle it!!!!

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Well first of all, is not all the time that when someone cheats, that means there is something wrong with the relationship..Yuh have some men and women that just love to sex...if smaddy look good, dem aggo sex dem off..Mi nuh know....

I don't know how to answer that...I personally, if my man was cheating on me...and he told me..mi woulda dead..Mi not even want to think about it...

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TEMPTATION IS a bytch, and sometimes a male or female may give in to only a few mins of sex and later regret it and never really want to try it again, therefore if that is the case an instant confession not neccesary.

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if you did cheat on your partner then there must be a problem within your relationship no matter how big or as small the problem there is one there other wise you would not be cheatin in the first place.