Just like you missed my point,
and I got your point exactly, and actually agreed with some of what you said
but like i said who told you SPECIFICALLY that YOUR man was using YOU??

who? i haven't seen that
we all know you are talking about babyloc, but like I said I have never seen her tell you, lady sizzle, jomo, lilli, and whoever else is in a LDR, or mixed relationship that their MAN is using them, but don't deny the possiblity
there is a possiblity, you would hope and pray not, but there is ALWAYS a possibility, sh*t, it's a possibility my husband is cheating and using me right now,and welive in the same city, and house, i can admitt it and would hope not, but if it is i will deal with it then

you guys refuse to even admit the POSSIBILITY and that is what makes some people think you and your relationship is a joke

Actually, I don't believe I was actively posting here when babyloc was - But I was responding to enough comments and subtle, and not so subtle digs, that have been made -

I don't disagree with what you say, and don't think my relationship is perfect by any means - He**, anyone that knows me personally knows that it is FAR from it - but it's also a relationship that blooms with possibilities, and to me, it's worth dealing with the LDR -

I don't at all refuse to admit that it's a possibility - I just refuse to keep them in the forefront of my mind. If you do that, I think you doom yourself to fail - self fulfilling prophecy and all that -

You can be used, cheated on, abused, by anyone from anywhere - Just because someone refuses to look at the negatives and focuses on the positives, it doesn't mean that they are blind to the possibilities - I have seen enough of the cheating (both in LDRs and not LDRs) that I know it can happen to anyone - and I also know the signs that it will happen - I just choose to not focus on them - if the flags go off, trust me, I won't ignore them.

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I never said that I wouldn't date him if I am attracted, but i have not come across one that I would
ALL women are capable of dating UGLY men, not just whites honey
so don't try to put those words in my mouth

you guys are funny and super sensitive and take words out of context i can't help but laugh
but you got the wrong baby, me and babyloc might share the same genes, but there are many differences and one being she takes entertainment going back and forth you guys and after I have said my piece I just get bored

and i mean that with all goodness, believe me I am the nice one
you ladies have fun, i can discuss topics all day and you will never hear me bad mouth one person, cause i just really don;t care that much

as long as YOU are happy in YOUR relationship just use my motto "F*ck em, and feed em beans"

i was just trying to tell you not to get so worked up on someone who uses this for PURE ENTERTAINMENT, but you guys do what you like

then we agree, but like i said it's all about balance take the good and the bad and be balanced with it

you are right you would never want to focus on the negative because you will be self sabatoging your happiness, but alo keep in mind the negatives--balance

see who said ths couldn't be discussed without a catfight,...LOL
kennjai loves all and accepts all oppinions and thanks all for the expanding upon the knowledge I already have

I thank all for the nice discussion

I agree completely, kennjai - I believe that everything can be discussed without a catfight, and that people are entitled to their own opinions -

I appreciate the rational debate - Just wish others were capable of giving the same - I truly believe you get back what you give out.

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This is where I disagree, Kennjai. You are assuming that those of us you are referring to as "you guys" do this. What is written in public and what is written in private are often 2 different things. Unless you know any of "you guys" personally, you can't say this with any degree of certainty. I do know and talk to many of "you guys" and I know what you are writing in this one sentence is not true across the board.

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[quote=kennjai;480936]I never said that I wouldn't date him if I am attracted, but i have not come across one that I would

Okay that's one thing. You are entitled to your taste... But that's not what you originally said. You said .......
--majority of the time when a white woman is with a black man, it is NOT a black man a black women would even CONSIDER dating (not all now, I said most).

So your personal taste is now the voice for all (oops, MOST) black women?

And don't get your knickers in a twist....I'm here for the entertainment too!

we are talking about whats written on the board jg, not whats in pm's
why admit in pm that there is apossiblity but not in public?? I am not understanding
you don't have to put your business out inthe streets to admit that there is apossibility you are being used

we are talking in general, I rarely talk about my personal life on here or any other boatd maybe a few snipets but i can come on here and admit it happens

you are right i don't talk and know "you guys" personal situations, not interested,
others can only go off whats posted on the PUBLIC board, why not have your pm's reflect the same oppinins as in public?? (without telling your business, it is possible)
and "you guys" are for those who won't admit it that it does happen on the board

[quote=NYCgirl;480943]not only is it my PERSONAL tatse it is the PERSONAL tastes of the women I know and encounter where I live

There are many women that i know that love men of all races, hell I have a black friend that has dated a short chinese guys, itdoes come to preferences and most, (well lets use A LOT) of black women I know and meet have a preference that may not include the black man on the white womans atm, is all I am saying and i am speaking again from my neck of the woods

That's all you really had to say. So.......... I was right all along. I'm not interested in white men who date black women either. Yuck. Not my type. Sounds pretty stupid, now doesn't it??

NYC, reread her post............She Said ATM, not ARM.

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[quote=NYCgirl;480951]oh so are you saying I saying because he dates white women I am not attracted???
cause that is definitely not what I am saying

I could care less if he dated a white woman or a chinese woman before me, just as long as he isn't dating one while WITH me,
but yet again this is written words and people read what they want or what they have already conjured up in their mind

your line does sounds stupid and stupidity rarely falls from my mouth because I think about what I am going to say before saying it(lol)
and i agree with you, anyone that has that attitude is stupid

LOLm that is so funny cause that was a coincidence, I meant ARM,

the "r" and "t" are right next to each other, funny it happened in this thread....LOL

[quote=kennjai;480954]I think that is the point, Kennjai.

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all of this is pure jokes and funny as hell.......

oh my GOD!!!

ken, i tild you dem wont listen...they only see what they want to

in aswer to the quest, i would say that the man on your arm is not a black woman reject...but rather a complete CORNBALL that i would not look at twice in ANY INSTANCE.....

pure jokes in this thread..

pure entertainmnt..

gotta get to work

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