lol my friend is paying her immigration consultant $5000 to do all the work for her- its unfreakenbelievable!! falling in love is the most expensive ive ever done too.. poor but happy huh!

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I agree.....falling in love is the most expensive thing I have ever done too. Not only are you spending all the time and money involved in this visa process, you are also still visiting and the phone calls and all that.

You definately need to make sure it is something really want to do. The time spent doing all this paperwork is endless.

It is unfreakinbelievable. I was overwhelmed at first look. But, it is fairly easy to do. Just a whole lot of paperwork.

Now you know why so many Jamaicans say it is hard for them to get a visa. Also makes me wonder how so many other immigrants seem to get theirs so easily.

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Looks like we're all in the same damn boat due to love. If those men only knew!

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Mine knows. Not only is he doing everything he can on his end with the "field trips" I make him go on; but also with working extra, cutting costs, and saving up money and sending it to me. I thought he was going to cry when I took him the bound copy of all the paperwork I had sent in. He was overwhelmed by the complexity of it and all I had done for him. He thanked me over and over again.

Hey Jamcan, will you post some of the Canadian stuff as you go through it? I realize yours is more like the US K-3 visa then the K-1 I have been discussing; but I would still like to know what is required and how it all goes. Just nosy! By the way, good luck to you!!!!

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Jomo thank you SOOOOOOO much for all of the information you have provided!! I'm sitting at my desk at work, and I literally almost choked on a piece of chicken just reading over all of the things you have to send in---AND YOU'RE NOT EVEN FINISHED!!! But you know what, the love that we're all experiencing and going through great lengths for is real, and that's all that matters...so in essence...it's all worth it and more if the end result is the two of you being blissfully happy for the rest of your lives!!! Please keep me updated on your progress, and I'll print out everything that you've shown me already.

If I didn't think we were worth all the hassle, I would've never done this. You really have to know you are in it for the long run.

I did find myself saying "what the hell am I thinking" several times along the way.

I really hopes it helps you and anyone else interested. I spent hours/days/weeks researching and scouring the web for other's tales of the K-1. I learned a lot along the way and some stuff turned out to be a lot easier then I expected. If I saved you any time at all, I did my good deed for the day.

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And Incognito, I'd like to add something too. PLEASE be sure he's sincere. How long have you two been in a relationship? There are too many people who get used for Visa's and dropped like hot potatoes.

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That ain't no lie, JamCan........the I-134 you sign states you are agreeing that he will not apply for public aid for 4 years after you marry, whether you divorce or not. Which means, if he is not even with you, you could be suporting his happy a$$ for years.

Be careful, girlfriend. Love is love. But, infatuation with a charming, attentive man in a beautiful setting can be deceiving.

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I have a question, and I hope it isn't taken the wrong way. I have been reading lots of posts on here for a while about relationships with Jamaicans and to make sure their intentions are good. How do you ever truly know if they are? Does it really matter if you are with someone 6 months or 6 years before you get married - can't someone put on an act that long, especially when you aren't with them 24/7?

How do you know it is because of love, and not some other underlying reason?

As you can probably tell I am in a relationship (of sorts) with a man in Jamaica. I met him on a trip to Jamaica, but near the end so we didn't spend much time together. However we did exchange phone numbers and talk several times a day on the phone. I know it probably seems crazy, but the feelings have grown just in those conversations. He never rushes me off the phone, he is never too busy to talk, and he phones me all the time because he can't wait for me to phone. He will also phone when he knows I'm not home just to leave a message for me when I do get home.

I brought up marriage to him, not the other way around. I want to be with him - I don't care if it is here or there, and he says he doesn't care either. In my heart I feel he is sincere, but when I read these posts I start to doubt. But it reminds me of what one of my friends told me "Follow your heart, it will never lead your wrong. It is when you head gets involved that things get screwed up."

Anyway, I didn't mean to take over this thread (you can move it if you like), but I was just curious how those of you who say you are sure know it is real.

Trust me JamCan..this has been my concern since DAY ONE!! We have been together for a year now. Honestly, when this whole thing started happening, I doubted EVERY word that he was saying. I didn't put much faith in it, because of course we all here the stories about what Jamaican men want from American women, and how most are just trying to get over here to the states, etc. etc. etc. I had my guard up for a long time, and in some respects I still do, which is what makes this process that much scarier. But over the course of this year he has done things and shown me things that shows that what he is about is sincere. I am a therapist by profession, so I would like to think that I can pick up on a little bit more than what some others can. I don't want to say that I continue to test him, but he knows how hard my trust is to come by, and he is doing whatever he can to prove his sincerity and loyalty. And like someone else noted, you may know somebody and date somebody who lives next to you for years, but when it comes down to it, they are just as deceitful as the next rat. So it's kind of a toss up in a way. My thoughts about the situation are this: If this is truly meant to be, and I believe that it is, then God will provide a way and things will work out as they should. If on the off chance that he is able to come here and we do marry and he leaves, then this will definitely be a life lesson that I have lived and learned from. This situation has already taught me so much, and I'm sure it will continue to do so. I will not say that things have been blissful or easy, because THAT in itself would send a red flag. We have definitely had our yelling moments, our crying moments, our moments of frustration, inpatience, etc. But we try and work through it the best way possible. It has NOT been easy. One of my favorite quotes is by Robert Frost and he says, "I took the road less travelled, and that has made all the difference." I'd like to think that because I'm not just settling for what others want or for any dude that is available, but really gone after what it is that I want and that what makes me happy, then in the end my life will truly be transformed by my experience. That's my 2 cents for now!! Thanks for listening.

sometimes i wonder to myself... is anyone dating the same jamaican guy?? ....don know where that thought came from but just wanted to say it!!..... anyhows jomos girl your info has proved very useful as i said my friend is doin it right now... i will do it too one day if my man and i are headed that direction.. hopefully when that happens ill have learnt enough from other mistakes!!!...

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You're probably not the first one who's wondered that. Its a logical thought think.

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LMAO it is a thought think! its just the islands so small and the worlds so big lolol...and then theres stars scary stories about Ja women letting their husbands date americans just for the money...I hope im scaring all the woman who are dating guys now!! just kiddin we all know that theres eeeeeddiots all over the place,u could just as easliy get played by the man next door!...just never give more than u can afford...geez im raving today! me speak without de think!

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Just an addition to this thread: Jilly passed on some info. to me that you all should probably know.

Her man was denied a visa cause he tested positive for weed in his system at the medical exam. Not only did they deny him; but they banned him from reapplying for 3 years. (As a note: my future sister-in-law also recently tested positive and paid the doctor to fix the results. I would never advise that, though.)

Something to keep in mind. I certainly don't want to go through all of this to have something so stupid ruin everything.

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