How do you deal with a long distance romance? What would you say to someone who is considering one....would you tell them to run for their life or to go for it and jump in?

read my Once in love - Part 1 & 2 you'll see my side

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would never reccomend it - its painful, scary and the hardest learning experience ive ever had to deal with...
Is it worth it?? only u know the answer to that.

love does not fear.

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So you had feelings for him before you met in person? I thought I was crazy when that happened to me. Try to fight it but I can't. Its not that long of a distance...few hrs by car.

We fell in love before we met in person. I do have to say ONE hugely positive thing to say about LDR's.

***There's NOTHING like getting to know someone when sex isn't in the way!!***
If there's no way you're gonna end up in the sack at the end of the night, there's NO reason to play games to get someone there. Its the most honest way to have a relationship because the only thing you can do is COMMUNICATE......something most other relationships lack.

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Soooo true!

We owe most of our relationship to our ability to communicate. And of course on the rare occassion we actually SEE each other we don't even talk.....just moan, grunt, etc.

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"Long Distance" love quotes....

"I just want to hug you, but you are miles away, what I wouldn't do for a hug"

"I wish you were here or that I was there, or that wer were together anywhere"

"Don't measure the distance, measure my love"

"We are a perfect couple, we're just not in the perfect situation"

"I know when I leave, the distance will keep us apart. But distance, no matter how far, can't change these feelings in my heart"

"Love is the shortest dstanc between hearts"

"Cause I love you and I miss you, hearing your voice is the closest thing to touching you"

"You are far away, but your love remains, I can feel it all around. It embraces me and holds me tight, night after night"

"Love is a burning fire, the distance between us only increases our desire"

"You want to know how great my love is, count the waves"

Peace and Blessings Star

All across the world, there are couples who are crazy about each other
BUT are forced by circumstance to live apart...

*University students try to concentrate while writing love letters on the Internet to "hometown honeys"...
*Executives climb the corporate ladder while their true love waits for their call hundreds of miles away...
*Members of our armed forces who protect freedom worldwide...
*New lovers who meet while browsing online dating communities ...
*Even Hollywood stars, who must sustain love & relationships and marriages
while making movies in different countries...

Distance cannot, and will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment, and love. Although you may feel like you are losing faith in your relationship at times, hold fast and trust your heart! I truly believe that love & relationships are what make your life special, and that ones built on love & understanding are always worth preserving, regardless of the miles that may separate two people.

According to marriage and relationships.com...
the FIRST key to success with long distance relationships is effective communication. It is important for both parties to be able to feel that if they need to talk or write to the other person, communication will be welcomed and met with active communication from the other. The quality of the relationship is more likely to increase if both people develop the ability to share feelings openly with each other.

The SECOND key to success is a demonstrated commitment to the relationship by both parties. What kind of commitment, and how serious or light it is, will be different for different couples. Being so far apart can be a scary and risky endeavor for most couples....

so the THIRD and FOURTH keys are a willingness to take risks, and the presence of a solid and secure trust between the two people. This doesn't mean that each person needs to skydive from a plane, but rather, that each will trust that the other person's social life in his or her own town will not be a threat to the relationship. Trust is so important that if it isn't strong, you can make a conscious effort to work on it, both on your own and together.

This point leads to the FIFTH key, independence for each person, with a healthy level of dependence upon each other. When these are present, there is a balance of power in the relationship between both people, and each person can be autonomous but still get emotional needs met by the other person. Furthermore, with an appropriate balance of independence and dependence, each person is allowed, even encouraged, to grow and change as an individual, which everyone needs. It is, therefore, wise not to expect that your partner or yourself will always stay exactly the same as when the relationship started.

When these aspects of the relationship are healthy, the SIXTH key element tends to be naturally present, a mutual respect. Finally, none of these other elements can offer the relationship success if the SEVENTH key element is not there, clear expectations on the part of both people. It is so very important that you figure out your own personal expectations of the other person and the relationship, and then discuss them with the other person so that both of you are clear and/or can work out differences in expectations. Without this, each person is working on a very different relationship than the other, and problems are likely. One final point about long distance relationships is that you make time together quality time, and build in some alone time during visits. Do things that draw the two of you closer, rather than emphasize the distance between you.


Strategies for Coping


Pro-active things to be doing as on-going maintenance for yourself:
Get involved in organizations or causes that you personally believe in.
Put meaningful things in your life other than your significant other.
Every once in a while, do something that is atypical of yourself, although not self-defeating.
(For example, try art, wrting or singing)
Tend to your spiritual needs.

Specific strategies to try when the depression of missing hits you:
Let out the emotions: cry, scream, exercise, go for a run, play a sport, take a walk
Write a letter to the person, whether you send it or not, letting her/him know how you are feeling
Write poetry or a journal entry or both
Go to a concert or watch a sporting event
Go see a movie: comedy to make you laugh, adventure to take you away, tearjerker to help you cry
Call or visit a good friend


As if relationships weren't complicated enough, having them across a long distance is extremely challenging. However, throughout time couples have had to be miles apart, and have been able to maintain a solid, happy, successful relationship until they could be together again. In order to find success, there are some key elements that are necessary, which have been explained above. Without these key elements, relationships may endure, although they may not be healthy or fulfilling ones.

Peace and Blessings goes out to all the LDR/marriages

We are both looking forward to our 4 yrs anniversary this coming March

Do I have any fears NO! Because I know the HE (God) that is greater in me is greater then he(satan) that's in the world.

And yes, there is a possibility of my marriage not working out but it's better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all.....I am a big girl now and I can handle it by turning to God from where all my strength will come from to carry me through life. All I can do is take one day at a time and pray and hope and keep the faith.

Everytime I do get to see my husband I still have butterflies it's almost like we just got married and he has this big smile on his handsome black face with all his pearly white teeth showing.....I truly love my husband and I know he loves me because it written all over his face!

Thanks so much for all the input!!!! Appreciate everyones advice...someday I'll let you all know what the reasons for my question were.

We just assumed you'd let us in someday Teach. And I'm sure we'll all still be here....80 yrs old and all.

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Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.

It won't take that long!!!!!!