Hope your friend recovers quickly Teach!

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*Frens of Ja*

You know..this is an interesting thread..with much insight to the whole LDR thing. As I read through something came to mind....that is how an LDR can cause others to rush into something more serious. Meaning that it's hard for peeps to deal with not being together so they opt for the marriage way too soon. Even when they have only physically been with there man only once or twice at most! Just a thought..what do you think??

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Spice I could tend to agree with you on that one. They think its the only way because they can't afford to keep traveling. But in the long run, it'll cost you a hell of a lot more money when the marriage doesn't work out.

Unless you JG and go every month for almost a year.....I gotta give the girl props on that one.....

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LUV...Yes.....I wish I could go once a month too!! And it is very..very hard to have patience and to deal, but like you mention JC...it will cost more in the long run....heartache and a ton more money! But, I believe if you can wait like Tia, JG, etc... the chances are that it's real, true and you both should have mastered the communication skills!!

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I agree, there is never a need to rush into anything especially LD. I too like JG was down to JA once a month until I just stayed for 2 years. We are coming up to our 5th wedding anniversary and been together 6.5 years.

Getting to really know someone and where they come from and what they are about helps alot as well.

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Well sumtimes it just sucks, if u wanna be there for the person, hold dem or be held, kiss dem or be kissed, f*ck dem or be f*cked ...... And on the other hand it is fabulous... no presure involved and just gettin' to know eachother without having to deal with the physical part which can be very confusing.... like seh yuh nah kno di person but di sex "da bomb" an then when yuh get to kno di person yuh nah even like dem but it will be hard to break aff di relationship cah yuh already ave a physical cannection

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I agree with this too.

But, then again, there is no guarentee knowing someone for years, will result in anything better.

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You are definately my idol, Swell.

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If you've never stared off in the distance, then your life is a shame...

i wish i could have done this, but financially, it wasn't a reality. Lucky you! What an amazing experience, aside from the relationship, even. Very cool!

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Thanks Miss B, Thanks. Yes its work but he is the most wonderful man, even though he does my head in sometimes!!!!!
LOL

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What does B stand for? Bizzle ?

LOL we're still waiting Teach!!!!!

GAWD after re-reading what I wrote in this thread I can't believe I ACTUALLY used to be nice!!!!

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Originally Posted by JASpice You know..this is an interesting thread..with much insight to the whole LDR thing. As I read through something came to mind....that is how an LDR can cause others to rush into something more serious. Meaning that it's hard for peeps to deal with not being together so they opt for the marriage way too soon.

This is so painfully true.
Sad, that many have/will find that out the wrong way.

Many of these relationships would have endured for many years without any inclination of marriage, had the participant's been constantly physically close to each other.

The physical separation and lack of physical contact coupled with the daily online/telephone comminications (which would have otherwise been casual if they lived just a few blocks apart), quickly escalates into grandiose images of passion and romance.

The high cost of phone bills, inconvenience of constantly travelling backwards and forwards often times provides more than enough rationale in their minds to "lets just get married so we can be together". Totally pushing aside (for some) their inbred reasons and values for getting married.

SAD TO SAY..This very simple piece of logic is often all the woman needs to make the decison and (UNFORTNATELY) the very poison used by many men to embark on their deceptive "Visa Crusade".

<How cum mi nevva see disya tread B4? >

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