You only live once so go for it! And when reaching for your happiness shoot for the moon sun and stars! Go all the way no matter what it takes to get there because in the end it will be you and your husband to be floating on a cloud of Love. I wish you and yours all the best!

I have worked so hard for these 4yrs by being the best the I can be and I am not going to thow it all away for a one night stand because I truly love myself and my husband.

As far as men go I am sure that their are some faithful ones out there and I cannot say what my husband is doing or not doing I can only pray that he will do the right thing. And your so right some married men will cheat right under your nose living in the same house with you, and I have seen it much to often.

What ever works for other's is good but what works for me is: I don't put restrictions on my husband and he doesn't put restrictions on me....we put restrictions on ourselves so if he or I are unfaithful as an indivisual we would have to live with that and mentally it would be rather disturbing when having to face the one that you love knowing.

I am finding that there are alot of married couples coming up with aids and other diseases and there's a big price to pay for being unfaithful. So all I can say when some of these men decide to step out on their mate please please please use a condom...don't involve your innocent mate with your unfaithfulness by giving him/ her a deadly disease. Couples must always think before they act because the life they you save will be your own along with the life of your mate.

I love your response Star because you always keep it real.

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I like your response too Star. Me & Russel never worry about fidelity because we both would never let ourselves do it. Plus I dont' really struggle with it anyways.....I know I got a man even though he isn't here. And I know no other man could compare to him in the sack anyways so I'm not missing out.

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I am glad to hear that you and Russel never worry about fidelity. Too many females/males start nagging each other about things like: who you been with and what girl are you seeing. Quit checking his/her cell phone and pockets!and remember This man/woman love you because if her or she didn't they wouldn't be with you.

Doing these type of things only causes arguements which may result in breaks ups and all this can be avoided by loving and respecting one another.

Also, stop listening to what people say out there are saying about your mate and remember... Satan sure is busy trying to destroy this beautiful union that God has ordained between man and woman.

When I got married in Jamaica the Minister said something that made the guest chuckle a little but it was so true. He said, while holding up my marriage papers that my husband and I had just signed...No matter where he goes..no matter where you see him at....just tap him on the shoulder and say "come on"! and the Minister then said: because he's yours now.

These words still ring loud and clear and so I am putting my marriage certificate in my suitcase for Jamaica so I can go tap him on the shoulder in March and say Come On! letting those Ho's know he's still mine! lol lol lol

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I know that you and Russel have been dateing for a while before say I do and honey, things are a little different now. He is your husband and he understands more then you give him credit for. He is giving you good advise and you must learn to not only listen but take action upon what he is telling you to do. This man loves you deeply so don't ever think that you are ruining his day.

You must learn to be strong by letting go and letting God...and remember their is alot of power in prayer. Take one day at a time and do the best the you can do because that is all the God expects of you and believe me God will do the rest. I raised 6 boys and three girls and if he wasn't for God Almighty I don't know what I would have done. Relax a little okay and maybe take a little trip to see your honey..

You have what you would call the blues... and I know that you miss your husband very much and I am feeling you on that one. Luv Ya Star

No one who loves you expects you to be cheerful all the time...It won't be this way forever either.....someday you will live together and he can share your pain and your good moods.

Oh lucky him! LOL.

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i know exactly how u feel girl.. i did this the other week and beat myself up about it that was when i pm-ed u!! it is hard to accept we are going through completely different lifestyles at the same time, but it dosnt stop how he loves u, it dosnt seem fair at all but if he could change things i bet hed be right next to u holding u when u cry and theres no where else hed rather be than on the phone listening to ur day....

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You are right JSI....I already know he'd rather be here thru the ****. He gets frustrated that he isn't here to help me. I think a lot of my frustration is that its hard for me to go see him because I have to leave my son behind and I don't want to pass that responsibility onto anyone....trust me I have a special case here. Plus right now money's tight for both of us because we're trying to save for the $1500 immigration fee AND I'm trying to buy a ticket to Jamaica. I guess its the stress of everything all at once.

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I agree with Hotteach, you're a partnership now, for better or for worse......so just allow each other to be themselves, you can't always smile if you dont feel like smiling and from what I 've seen you write about your hubby, he's the kind of man that will love you "warts and all" and will not want you to hide how you are really feeling so as not to upset him. Your too hard on yourself JC.....take Stars advice.......let go and let God.

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I can't wait till I have more to say on the subject.. but it is sooo tuf being so far apart.. your not wakign up together or knowing how eachothers day is going.. when my husband and I were good before and back on track now.. we talk over 10 times a day.. but you never knwo what hit them the wrong way or good.. some are good some are bad.. and it's soooooo hard to be cheery all the time.. although you never want a conversation to go badly it happens sometimes.. we can't always express openly when we're in a bad mood and sometimes we don't even know that we are until some conversation comes up and then POWWWWWW ... okay I may have overreacted... and now.. I said some things I don't mean... that's what me and hubby are working on now...

When he noticed that I shut down or start getting snappy.. he ask me what happened or just even tell me that he loves me and that it will be okay... when he starts gettin in a bad mood .. he'll take the time to tell me that maybe we shoudl give eachother a break and then come back to us in a bit.. time to breathe.... as he hates to say things he doesn't mean... we're gettin there... and I know it will be hard work.. but for everyone out there... when you have love for someone and you know it's there.. it can be forever and you have to remind eachother of that.. I know that there are hards times ahead as they have been in the past but we have to look out for eachother and the ones we love..... and try and think before we speak.. that's the hard one

Well its sooo tuff having a long distance friendship, when they are hurting and you are too far to help...my friend was stung by bees all over and is swollen up like a fatty...I wish I could be there to help but I can't....worried about him and he can;t talk on the phone so I just have to wait to find when he is ok.....

I hope your friend is ok Hotteach.

Bad reception did me in tonight......oh well, I wil try again tomorrow.

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