The worst thing about long-distance love. at my age, Hotteach, it that it's awful rough on the legs.

Thanks for you message Star.. it really helps to see someone elses point of view.. Especially when things aren't looking that great.. I've been fighting it out with the only person in this world that is more stubborn then I. He shuts people out, and I know how to get to him, but it's nothing I can do over the phone... but I'm feeling that every day that goes by and I'm still in Canada, we're going farther and farther apart.

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Well I am feeling like an LDR takes the kind of love and commitment that I have never experienced.....the good part is getting to know someone inside really well before the physical part. The hard part for me is the trust. I have had issues with trust in relationships before.....both not trusting and not being trusted. I am thinking this cpuld be a huge obsticle for me to overcome! In any relationship but especially in an LDR!

Everyones experiences are different some good some bad but above all you must always allow God to be the Captain of your Ship (relationship) and pray with each other when you are together and when you are oceans apart. I try to stay strong by keeping the faith knowing that through God all things are possible for those that believe.

A lot of people are big on the trust issue and that's good for them but for me I too have a problem with the word trust. You see, I put all my faith and trust in God who is perfect and I respect my husband who is inperfect. What ever works for other's but I know what works for me and 4 yrs says alot.

Its so true Star...the thing to do here is give it up to God. He will show me the way. If it is meant to be it will be.

Just an update on this LDR question......The truth is if you give someone enough time they show the true self......I am thinking I was enamered with the newness of meeting someone I had what I though were some very real feelings but i have them in check now because I am thinkining this situation is not everything I thought it was at first.......Its hard to know from a long distance .
On the surface he is sweet and charming and our connection seems so real, we have a nice vibe together,
.......I guess it cant hurt to continue talking and getting to know him...but for now my heart is on lockdown where this guy is concerned...

Your spirit will guide you in the right direction...Listen to that inner voice, it will protect you from all harm.....

Respect to those who have long distance relationships that have worked.

One thing that my girlfriends with partners across the seas always struggle with is the fidelity issue. It may not be as much of an issue for us girls but, is there really a different breed of man out that is able to remain faithful across the miles??...... If so I wish they would share their secrets of self control with the huge number of brothers who are unable to be faithful even when their drop dead gorgeous wife lives right under the same roof.

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Black by nature, proud by choice !

That is soooo true girl!!!

Just put it in Gods hands and stay focus on things that are a must for your return. Saving money, educating yourself, and getting involved with humanitory work to keep your days going and mind off home. Its possible,
very challenging, but it can happen!

Peace!

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Let us never negotiate out of fear. But let us never fear to negotiate.

John F Kennedy

That is great advice..Being in the teaching profession I am involved in a lot of humanitary work every day.....I am focused on whats important to me more so every day......want to have someone to share my goals with....will have .....God willing

A long distance relationship is the hardest thing you will probably ever do. It is expensive, lonely, hard to cope sometimes, exhausting, distracting............the list goes on and on. If you can afford it, you will make numerous trips, talk for hours on the phone, etc.

Is it worth it? For me, I say yes, Yes, YES!!! I have been involved with my Jamaican for 8 months now. Got engaged over Christmas. We are currently in the visa process and planning a September wedding.

My bank account (and 401K) may be a lot lighter; but the love we feel for each other makes everything worth it. He is the most wonderful man I have ever met.

Life is short. Grab your happinesses while you can.