I Agree what RBG Quotes. You have to respect your ownself and carry yourself in in positive way, ie not vanity cause that is what i see all the time (when you see cats a flash&grin bling bling and all that foolishness it really winds me up, driving round in big muscle car when dem tek dem foot out dem marga like a keleton, hehe) Anyway just be yourself and never take the smallest things for granted. As they are the most meaningful things in life and when you percept those things in a humble way then you know that you will attract the most genuine people.
Self-Awareness & Self-Discipline is all you need.
And a Good Lady that is Dependent on her own self will make.

Negative Vanity is Soul Destroying it's just like reading a book and not understanding the story think about it