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Originally Posted by Jomo's girl
Words I agree with to a point, LS. But again, I want to stress not ALL holiday romances run this course nor turn out to be anything more then one person meeting another person and falling in love. A romance that begins on holiday, can turn out to run a nearly normal dating course and turn out to be "real" in every sense of the word. Also, not all JA men have baby mamas or even girlfriends at the time that you meet them. And, contrary to some popular belief, the fact that he is free when you meet him does not mean he is gay or no one esle wants him. Some also do not ask for money at any point. (Although ironically, this same person may be complaining every day that all his friends and family do nothing but call him in the US and ask him for money!)
I always stress be careful. If it seems to good to be true, it usually is.
I think everyone who thinks they want to embark on a LD romance needs to really go into it with their eyes wide open. Investigate every little thing that bothers you. If the pit of your stomach tightens or you feel/hear/see something that doesn't seem right, ask....talk it out.....till you are satisfied.
But also know that sometimes you just luck out and meet the one for you.
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I agree with everything you've said here JG. I met my bf while vacationing in Jamaica and I was very worried at first, mostly because other people were telling me that "all Jamaican guys this..." or "all Jamaican guys that..."
In the year that we've been together I've not found any hint that he's "just after my money" or "trying to get his visa" or any of the other crazy things people say.
It's easy to believe the hype. But I just found that taking it slow lets you get to know each other better and that allows you to trust the relationship more and more every day. Be smart, be aware, ask questions, address issues immediately and don't let suspicius behavior slide. But then be open - cause it's possible that he just may be a good guy...
Sometimes it takes getting played before you wake up and see things for how they are - but believe me, you don't have to go to Jamaica to be taken advantage of - I've seen plenty of Americans do the same thing.