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Originally Posted by JamericanLady
Let me just say a few things. Again JA live a different life then we do, harder - and it's hard for us to comprehend, so don't try to figure that out. All men give mixed signals, so do us woman. You said in one of your post, you get bored after several months. That's kind-of the same as unwilling to have a long term commitment.
Money and things come in time and if he can't offer you that, maybe one day he will. I dated an American man, a doctor, who was able to give me the life that I'm use to and better, he wanted me to move to another state so he could open a new practice, but I didn't move fast enough. He was arragant and rude.... Anyway it ended hard. It took me weeks to get out the bed, yet alone get over the fact that it was over. I'm just saying this to say that if you love someone and they love you back, it's worth trying.
Still be careful - it's like any interracial relationship, there will always be difference in culture and things neither one of you will totally understand about the other. It's good that you didn't move, he's right it's not that easy. I think the phone thing is universal there, even when I visit JA my roaming takes on a whole new thang! Even almost got left behind because my girls couldn't reach me.
I'm no longer bitter about the doctor, but I refuse to allow a man to treat me less than a queen. My new JA man can't afford to give me anything, (and I ain't rich either) but what he can and gives me is priceless. I'm just enjoying the moment, without worrying about tomorrow or the past. BUT WHEN I GET QUIET TIME AND DWELL ON THIS DAY AND MY PRESENT CIRCUMSTANCES - it takes my breath away. I don't want this feeling to end. But if it does, I'll have a beautiful true story, not a fair tale to tell my grand kids.
Hey ladies, I want to hear someone's story end happy! Hence my signature.
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Well I will admit I have commitment issues and it scares me. But it scares me because I am the all or nothing type of person. And if I say Im givin gyou my all then for sure its ture and I got your back. Im scared of someone taking advantage of the situation.
As for your statement on an interracial relationship , do you actually mean culture wise? Because hes Jamaican and Im American but we are both black. I am not Jamaican but I am very familiar with the culture and very intuned to it. I mean its different being born and raised in JA then men I have dated that are born here. But they still have the strong values and culture.
And yes I believe if two people love each other its worth trying. I dont want to give up. I am willing to slow down and take time because if its meant to be then it will be. But if we cant communicate with each other if I feel like I dont understand whats going on because I cant talk to him, then its hard and its hurts. I am cant sit around being hurt for what I hope will be.