Let me just say a few things. Again JA live a different life then we do, harder - and it's hard for us to comprehend, so don't try to figure that out. All men give mixed signals, so do us woman. You said in one of your post, you get bored after several months. That's kind-of the same as unwilling to have a long term commitment.

Money and things come in time and if he can't offer you that, maybe one day he will. I dated an American man, a doctor, who was able to give me the life that I'm use to and better, he wanted me to move to another state so he could open a new practice, but I didn't move fast enough. He was arragant and rude.... Anyway it ended hard. It took me weeks to get out the bed, yet alone get over the fact that it was over. I'm just saying this to say that if you love someone and they love you back, it's worth trying.

Still be careful - it's like any interracial relationship, there will always be difference in culture and things neither one of you will totally understand about the other. It's good that you didn't move, he's right it's not that easy. I think the phone thing is universal there, even when I visit JA my roaming takes on a whole new thang! Even almost got left behind because my girls couldn't reach me.

I'm no longer bitter about the doctor, but I refuse to allow a man to treat me less than a queen. My new JA man can't afford to give me anything, (and I ain't rich either) but what he can and gives me is priceless. I'm just enjoying the moment, without worrying about tomorrow or the past. BUT WHEN I GET QUIET TIME AND DWELL ON THIS DAY AND MY PRESENT CIRCUMSTANCES - it takes my breath away. I don't want this feeling to end. But if it does, I'll have a beautiful true story, not a fair tale to tell my grand kids.

Hey ladies, I want to hear someone's story end happy! Hence my signature.

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