Wisewomen, looking back before you got married were there signs that things weren't what they seemed? Or did you have no clue. There are many American stories of women being conned by men also. Some admit there were signs before hand but love blinded them to the signs. Every case has to be looked at individually you can not put one label on every situation. Sometimes we go through hard times in life but did you learn something from it? Instead of dwelling on the negative help others who may not see what you can see now, looking back at your situation. But be helpful not negative about it, because that turns people of to any sincerity in your comments. Turn your situation into helping others not pushing someone away whom you may be able to help. God Bless.....