I feel you on this one Brazil.....but I dont know if that my man knows its what I want or not.doesnt it seem like they want to make sure they have done everything? there is no rush...however he does at certain times give me the full body attention...but its not like a lasting thing....he will draw that attention for maybe 5 minutes and BAM! but I am not complaining...because he can certainly get the job done...I would tell him what I wanted and he would oblige....if I went down...he went down....and he stays there for a while...now that I do like...I am still learnin the ways...I dont want to change nothing about him but I do want to understand...and that scares me sometimes because I care for him so much...I just want to understand.....